Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Most Common Mistakes People Make In Relationships


Dating can be an equally rewarding and wildly disorienting experience. With the wealth of dating apps available at your disposal, and all the silly nonsense that such apps can drum up, it can be just a bit intimidating when you're trying to figure out where to even start. And then, when you eventually muster up the courage to forge your handy dating profile, and begin swiping away on fellow human beings that suit your fancy, you realize just how hard it is to strike up a meaningful connection in a sea of people that might just be using the app for fun, and nothing more. Suffice to say, it can be a discouraging and draining process. You're absolutely not alone if you're prone to installing and then deleting the app, and then installing it again. A strange cycle for sure, but one that many folks can get caught up in. I mean, who really wants to deal with a relentless wave of shamelessly cheesy pickup lines all the time? Everyone has their breaking point.

Maybe you actually ended up deleting those dating apps and meeting someone out in this crazy world that you genuinely enjoy being around. Such a life development can occur when you least expect it, but when it does, it falls on all of us to handle the situation with as much mindfulness as we can put together. It'd be nice if navigating the whole realm of dating came with some kind of instruction manual, but we're not so lucky. Thus, many of us can fall into relationships that never realize their full potential. Like there's always some mysterious piece missing to complete the puzzle and tie the whole dynamic together.

The last thing you want to find yourself dealing with is an emotionally tumultuous, toxic relationship that only ends up bringing out the worst in you and your partner. Love is a crazy thing in that regard. Loving someone can manage to effortlessly amplify all of your emotions in such a way that you end up being dragged along by them, and make a mess along the way. It's okay though. We've got some awesome human beings on this planet that are dedicated to sharing the hard earned wisdom that they've picked up on their own journeys. In this case, we're talking about an AskReddit thread that has people describing the most common mistakes that folks make during relationships.

If anything a thread like this can serve as a helpful instruction manual on what not to do if you want to live a more peaceful, even happier life. Some examples from the thread are things like the mistake that folks make in terms of not actively listening to one another, taking each other for granted, or avoiding glaring problems that are ruining the relationship. That last one can impact a lot of folks. When you're head over heels for someone, blinded by the rose-colored glasses, it's dangerously easy to shrug off the very issues that need immediate addressing. Anyways, all rambling aside, some folks might find helpful stuff in here to help smooth out the wrinkles in their relationships.

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Handwriting - noah9389 · 3h The most common mistakes that couples make are not actively listening to one another, taking their partner for granted, and pushing aside problems because they don't want to cause an argument. G Reply 1 437 ...

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Organism - MaizeNBlueWaffle • 4h I think having deal breakers in relationships is obviously good to set your standards, but I know so many people who have the most petty and dumb deal breakers that just result in them never willing to compromise or be satisfied. It's 100% okay to not have the same hobbies or be the exact same person. Variety is the spice of life G Reply 1 167 ...

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Font - Sweet_Tune • 5h "Things fall apart if you don't look after them" - Professor Langdon in Inferno It's easy to get so comfortable in a relationship that you take it (or the other person) for granted. G Reply 1 334 3 ...

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Font - blankblotter •6h 1 Award Labeling your partner the source of all your happiness and joy G Reply 1 503 ...

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Font - TheUnblinkingEye1001 · 2h Assuming your partner should know what you want if they love you. I struggled early in our marriage because the women in my wife's family are big on this. We worked on it and it took a bit, but we got to the point where we would only hold each other accountable to expressed words and thoughts. It has made all the difference in the world and 27 years of marriage have been mostly happy. Also, comparisons. Never say "Well my last SO did this" or " My family always d

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Font - backwoodshippy • 4h Trying too hard to avoid potential arguments to avoid conflict rather than hashing it out before the issue becomes too big to handle. G Reply 1 7 ...

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Font - sweetsubmarines · 3h Not being able to communicate. You need to be able to voice when you are hurt without them taking it as an attack. You need to be able to hear your partner. G Reply 8 ... +

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Font - AustinR4 · 3h Seeing your partner too much or too little, neglecting their friends in a relationship, having poor communication. GReply 4 17 3

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Font - BennyBiBoy • 6h 1 Award Lack of communication on both sides.

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Font - DarkPasta • 5h 1. You need attraction. 2. you need trust. 3. communicate. communicate. communicate. 4. the other person is flawed, just like you. Accept that. 5. Be a decent human, don't lie and cheat. There, done. Enjoy. G Reply 70 ...

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Rectangle - Hefty_Wedding_1212 • 3h Having trust issues G Reply ... LO

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Font - AnAverageFreak · 2h Treating dating as a game you're supposed to win instead of playing just for fun of it. 6 Reply ...

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Font - Apprehensive_Cap1691 • 3h Taking your partner for granted is a big one G Reply 15 ...

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Rectangle - a_prime98 · 3h "I'm fine" believes her "Why did you believe me?!" G Reply 1 2 3 + ...

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Font - sharrrper · 55m Keeping score. "I did the dishes three times two weeks ago, you only did them once last week." "You got a new video game this month, why didn't I get something?" Etc It's never going to be completely even, things ebb and flow. Both side should feel like they're getting a fair shake overall but if you keep track of every little thing (even if it's just in your head, I don't necessarily mean like an actual list) it's just going to guarantee that somebody is always "losing".

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Smile - Slytherin77777 • 2h Co-dependency. You have to be comfortable with yourself and you need your own interests, goals, and desires separate from your partner. Invest in yourself first! G Reply 1 Vote ...

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Font - lewisjake2777 • 1h Not being able to do things on your own. You don't have to do everything together or be in constant communication (via texting or something). Reply Vote ...

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Smile - JoeFortitude · 1h Lack of forthright honesty in order to avoid arguments/ tough conversations. A little acute pain now is worth more than chronic resentment in the future. 6 Reply Vote •..

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