Saturday, January 9, 2021

Bride Wants Narcissistic Twin Sister Out Of Wedding


Many folks out there have a family member who just seems continually committed, if not addicted to being the center of attention. Some folks are just born into this world wanting all the attention all the time. If it's a family member, you'll often do your best to adapt to that big personality, but sometimes special, life-defining occasions arrive and you don't want to risk that narcissistic family member making your special day all about them. That would seem to be the case here with these twin sisters. It sounds like the twin sister in this scenario doesn't have a great track record of being selfless at all. For some more juicy wedding drama check out the most entitled bridezillas of 2020

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Text - r/AmltheAsshole + Join u/twindrama543 · 10h 2 WIBTA to not have sister as maid of honor after trying to outshine my engagement Sorry for bad formatting from cell phone and throw away account So my twin and I have always had this low key competition going on. She always had to be the center of attention. While growing up I just gave up and let it happen, it was easier than fighting. I never got to have my accomplishments recognized because she would always have something that everyone need

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Text - Every family get together is all about her. From how much money she makes at her new job, or how horrible her bosses treat her so she quits, to how her life is so difficult and we wouldn't understand(8 hr job with 30 min commute), or how easy my life is because I just go to school and work part time. She is very narcissistic. And never thinks about how her actions or words effect people. She started dating a guy last year and he proposed to her after only dating for 4 months. (I'm not hat

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Text - Last week my bf of 7 yrs proposed. I was super excited. I called my family members crying with the news. Not even 48 hrs afterwards, my sister started sharing pictures of her and her husband in a photo shoot saying "since she is never going to get the wedding she always dreamed of she decided to get these done as a gift for the family". They were hastily done photos done by their friend and not a professional. Here's where I may be the AH. I told my mother that I don't want my sister to b

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Text - rileygreyy • 10h · Supreme Court Just-ass [148] NTA. Better to not give her any more chances to make your success and life all about her. Reply 1 1.7k •..

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Text - EngineeringOwn2299 · 10h · Partassipant [3] NTA. You don't owe her just because she asked you. You know your sister, you know what she is like and you know she's going to make your wedding about her. She couldn't even let you have your proposal. Q Reply 1 259 3 ...

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Text - MightyMary007 · 10h · Commander in Cheeks [269] NTA. Your wedding your rules. The maid of honor's job is to have your back 100% and to step up and help with planning, etc. No way does your sister qualify. Reply 121 ...

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Text - unrelatable12• 10h NTA It's your wedding. You get to pick who's in it. No one has time for a narcissist drama queen on their big day. Btw, congratulations! Q Reply 1 76 3 ...

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Text - russianbabe7092929 • 10h · Partassipant [2] NTA. it's your wedding and you aren't obliged to make your sister the MOH Reply 37 ...

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Text - schux99 · 10h NTA. This I say because I have two sisters and neither is going to be MOH or even a bridesmaid at that. Weddings are about the Bride and Groom. You should do what makes you happy, not what others want you to do. Reply 23 ...

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Text - songintherain • 9h · Asshole Aficionado [19] NTA. Sisters don't have the right to be maids of honors. You can have whoever you want as your MOH. You do you Reply 11 3 ...

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Text - FiniteCommunist · 3h NTA - I actually see this situation going two ways. Either your sister is MOH and sucks, takes away all the attention, finds multiple ways to steal the spotlight and just altogether ruins your day. If your sister is the 'secret' MOH and your friend is the 'real' one, there will inevitably be a fight where sister realizes she isn't maid of honor, or she will again steal the spotlight and be insufferable. If you ask your friend to be MOH, you will probably deal with som

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Text - msbeesy • 10h • Asshole Aficionado [18] NTA - you should have people with you that you want by your side. But unfortunately i doubt it will be enough to stop her OP! Good luck! Reply 1 10 ...

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Text - ConsciousCard · 10h · Asshole Aficionado [14] NTA - I think a smart rule is to have people in your wedding party who will be supportive and helpful to you. Not anyone who will cause additional stress and drama. If your sister isn't that person than she just isn't that person. Reply ...

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Text - cultoftwinkies • 9h NTA your sister would be nothing but trouble. How about phrasing it something along the lines of how it would be cruel to your sister to be MOH since she had to postpone and you don't want to rub her nose in it. Reply 7 ..

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Text - KineticSerenity • 10h NTA. She gets to choose what happens at her wedding just as much as you get to choose what happens at yours. She'll have her time to shine, you have every right to have yours. Reply •..

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Text - desert_red_head · 9h · Partassipant [1] NTA. Not only are you under no obligation whatsoever to have your sister as your maid of honor, but I would also probably reconsider even inviting your sister to your wedding. She couldn't even let you have a few moments to share your engagement news without trying to upstage you-Lord knows what sorts of antics she would get in on the day of the wedding. It's your wedding. Do what will make you happy (and sane)! Q Reply 1 5 ...

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Text - TheBuzzWuzz •7h NTA I don't even need to read the story, you can choose your own maid of honour. O Reply 3 ..

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Text - meeka_me · 7h NTA- you are not obliged to include your family in your wedding party or your life. If your family pushes the issue, you don't even owe them an explanation, but if you want to explain, then you have years of examples. O Reply ...

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Text - hungry_likeafox •6h NTA but..if she's going to be there anyway, would it be better if you had some control over what she wears and what she does during the ceremony? Reply ...

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Text - Confident_Profit_210 · 5h NTA and save yourself the hassle and don't invite her to the wedding period. 100% she's going to attention seeking stunt at your wedding reception E Q Reply ↑ 2 2 3 ...

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Text - commonsense2021 · 1h NTA, don't make her your MOH, but...it takes more than one person to compete, and you have the power to stop this silly pettiness. (I have an irish twin, so i sort of get it, my sis is competitive, if she raises the flag I congratulate her and don't engage but my family doesn't indulge any foolery so i lucked out there.) If your family has been blind to it for this long they're not going to change - your mom is never going to stop wanting/willing you guys to be bestie

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Text - PrettyFlyForAJedi7 • 3h NTA - If you want to compromise in a small way, give your sister a reading to do at the ceremony. One that could easily be skipped over if she goes nutty but play it up to make is seem important & satisfy the narc tendencies. Reply 1 Vote 3 ...

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Text - JeanBlancmange · 3h NTA. Your twin does not have a birthright to be your MOH. Please pick your friend, i.e. the person YOU want by your side on your wedding day (other than your groom of course lol) Reply 1 Vote ...

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Text - PearlClutchingNinny · 2h NTA but realize no matter what you do your sister is going to show her ass and try to steal the spotlight on your day. It happened to me with my problematic family member. If I had just added her to the wedding party it would not have happened because she would have had to be dressed like the other bridesmaid. She showed up at the wedding in a red satin dress cut to her navel. We've been married 35 years now and my family still talks about the wedding that X showe

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Text - Muncie4 · 2h NTA. Know who gets to pick your bridal party? You. If you want Elvis, Hitler and JFK to stand up for you, that's your right. There is no requirement that family be in the bridal party. There is a tradition that you have younger person, a single person and a married person but people often break those traditions with ease. Invite who you like for your party and if anyone doesn't like it, that's on them. Reply 1 Vote 3 •..

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Text - CrabMom15 · 1h NTA. When my fiancĂ© and I announced our engagement to his family in the group chat, his cousin immediately posted a "baby bump update". It was her 3rd child and she was like 25 weeks along. This group chat hadn't been used in weeks. Some people just can't let you have the spotlight for 5 minutes. Your sister will be one of those people at your wedding. Don't let her take it from you and your fiancĂ©! It's your day! Q Reply 1 vote 3 ...

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Text - LyriumLychee · 1h NTA - Being the maid of honor is an HONOR, it means you are there to help the wedding go smoothly and helping the bride with whatever they need. She has clearly shown you she can't set her ego aside...I would say it was never an option. Reply Vote ...

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Text - lavaheadaddy · 1h NTA for sure but are you really going to let your mom plan one of the most important days for you and probably make it a miserable memory in the future?? Reply Vote ...

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Text - DutyValuable · 1h NTA. Have your friend as the MOH. If your mother never said anything about it, would you feel guilty? You need someone who has your back who will not cause drama, and I think we both know your sister is going to try to sabotage something. You might want to consider having someone on sister duty to make sure she doesn't show up at your wedding in a wedding dress or announce right before your vows that she's pregnant. Reply Vote ...

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