Saturday, November 21, 2020

Man's Coworker Brings Him Meals Every Day, Wife Tells Coworker To Stop


Um, the fact that this guy's wife told his coworker to basically back off, and said coworker continued to bring meals after that, makes this a very unsettling situation, indeed. Not even unsettling as much as it's just plain old inappropriate. If anything, it seems like something far more extramarital could be afoot in this unfortunate "love triangle."

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Text - AITA For telling my husband's colleague to stop bringing him meals that she cooks everyday? Not the A-hole I F35 been married to my husband Tom M32 for three years. We recently moved to a new home about 4 months ago and he started his new position at a private company and met new people who became friends with him outside of work. His work colleague "claire" is a bit intrusive and doesn't really respect boundaries. She'd bring meals to my husband at work pretty much everyday. And buy him

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Text - stuff saying she does this with everybody. She bought him a keychain before then he came home with a new tie and there wasn't even an event at the company or outside of it. My husband said she is just generous and has a good heart. She'd call him after work to ask what he'd like to eat the next day wft? I was stunned and confused. He didn't reply to her saying he doesn't want to make me upset and sort of drop it. The next day he came from work with her meal leftovers wanting me to try her

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Text - She started talking about work and basically excluded me from the conversation and it was rude, very rude. and then brought up my age again. I was getting uncomfortable but didn't say anything until she asked my husband what he wanted to eat the next day. I told her thank you but she shouldn't be bringing him meals at work I thought that was inappropriate and not professional. She talked about him trying "something new" and her cooking background and stuff. I told her no thanks but she di

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Text - Edit to say that I cook as well during the week so it's not like we don't eat fresh meals so she's being openly disrespectful and rude. Edit2 everyone l talked to thought it was strange behavior as well. It's not a common thing for a female worker to bring food to work. And of course she isn't the only female worker at the company and I can't find an explanation for this behavior and the point of it. 4.0k 647 1, Share

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Text - Tonitrus09 • 1d • Partassipant [2] 4 Awards NTA but Claire and your husband are. Claire's being rude to you and disrespectful to your relationship with your husband. Too many boundaries are being violated. But you have a bigger problem than Claire - your husband. Your husband should have shut down this behavior ages ago. Instead he is encouraging it and allowing this woman to disrespect you. Not to mention your husband has been present when this woman has been rude to you and he has said

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Text - Admirable_Mud_7423 • 1d • Partassipant [3] NTA. I'd find it extremely weird if another woman was consistently cooking for my partner specifically. It's one thing if she likes to cook and brings food for everyone at the office, it's another to single him out (especially after you've communicated that it makes you uncomfortable). Reply 6.0k

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Text - Careful-Listen2277 • 1d NTA. Your husband obviously likes the attention because you've told him you're uncomfortable with it and although he claimed he'll talk to her about it he clearly didn't since she was still making him food AND calling HIM asking what he wants to eat. Plus, he straight up let her openly disrespect you multiple times and when you said something back he came to her defense instead. Oh nuuu. He needs to get his priorities right and figure out if he wants a serious marr

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Text - jumbee85 • 1d NTA there is a line that she she long crossed. # Q Reply 87 ...

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Text - Calliope5586 • 1d NTA, but you DO realize your husband is having at minimum an emotional affair with this woman, right? Reply 1 305 3 + ...

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Text - iamabrownduck • 1d NTA. Not only does that seem wildly appropriate to cook another man lunch, but by constantly asking him what he wants, it means she's taking time out of her night to do something "special" for him, a man who is already married. Who would spend that sort of time, effort, and grocery budget on that? Your husband's reaction is also sending up a lot of red flags. You need to sit down and tell him how you feel, that not only do you feel that she was dismissive towards you du

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Text - ducktruck27 • 1d The explanation is, she thinks you're too old for him and he should be with her not you. End of story. She's crossing boundaries and your husband is allowing it. Huge red flag. NTA. Reply 1 76 ...

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Text - lamTheDarkAgent • 1d • Certified Proctologist [24] NTA - Claire is aware of what she's doing and is a danger to your marriage. It's for you to decide if your husband is really or willfully ignorant of her motivations. # Q Reply 1 89 5 ...

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Text - moa1347 • 1d NTA. But your biggest issue isn't Clare. It's your husband. He needs to shut this down. While her behavior is highly inappropriate, the fact that he continues to eat her food and invite her to outside work activities is completely TA behavior and very suspect. Reply 43 3 ...

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Text - Nebsy_Websy • 1d • Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] NTA. Id have a long talk with your husband and explain how weird this is. Men aren't the brightest when passes are being made. One woman to another I would NEVER dream of bringing lunch for a married man every day, buy random gifts and even more never be anything less that respectful in the wifes home. That sort of behavior is for people who want to break up a couple. Those people need a slap in the face. Edit yo say: you should trust your husba

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Text - [deleted] • 1d NTA it's inappropriate for her to buying him things, cooking him meals, and then being rude to you as well and make comments about your age especially when it's not as though you have a huge age gap. Even if your husband doesn't think it's weird, if you feel it is it shouldn't be a big deal for him to refuse her cooking/ gift in the future and it's definitely not a ridiculous ask on your part. It's not as though you're trying to control who he's friends with. Reply 45 ...

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Text - luker-2-commentor • 1d NTA. Claire needs to back off. Your husband needs to be put in his place. If a man was buying you stuff, feeding you, doting over you, he would flip the hell out. Ask him. If he says he wouldn't he's lying. For the short term, tell him not to bring work home. Leave his work wife there bc his real one doesn't want to hear about the inappropriateness. If he needs a second opinion go ask a random woman or a female friend who doesn't know this woman. # Q Reply ↑ 21 3 +

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Text - The_Amazing_Ammmy • 1d NTA. To me it sounds like it's not a jealousy thing, it's more that you find it disrespectful, where I agree with you. You made the effort to get to know her and be friendly with her, and she chose to be exclusive and rude to you in your own home for no reason. A respectful person who didn't have ulterior motives wouldn't have reacted that way. Your husband should have also backed you up, your request that it stop is not unreasonable , especially with the way she be

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Text - effygrant • 1d • Partassipant [4] NTA she sounds like she's hubby hunting. And the biggest problem is your hubby, he's basically the oblivious deer drinking from the lake while she gets him the in the crosshairs. She's irritating you so you get grumpy and then she looks like the breath of fresh air spoiling him and being friendly. He needs to tell her to stop and not by saying "my wife doesn't like it" but just by saying it's not appropriate. Someone tried this with my hubs a few years ag

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Text - Extension_Ad_972 • 1d NTA but your issue is with your husband. He is the one who is refusing to enforce relationship boundaries. He is the one who is choosing to take her side over yours. He is the one who agreed to be in a relationship with you, and (while she is being disrespectful and horrible) it is his responsibility to honor the boundaries of that relationship. agree her behaviour is abnormal, but it's also abnormal for someone to accept the food, to answer the texts like this, to i

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Text - kieraembers • 1d • Partassipant [1] Nta If she mad too much and shared with the office and or others in the office that is something. If she regularly bakes cookies and caked for everyone or on birthdays that's ok. Speaking as a girl who uses food to emotionally manipulate my man (I want his stomach dependent on me and for him to compare all cooking to mine) cooking is a way to ingratiate yourself to someone. To seem domestic and create a positive association. She is also giving him littl

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Text - remembertowelday525 • 1d • Partassipant [4] NTA. Once you stated your discomfort with what she was doing directly to her, she should have shut that off completely. Claire has become a walking ball of disrespect to you and your marriage. My mother told me a while back that she had a bad feeling about three women with whom my father worked in his career. He told her later that all three of those women tried to behave inappropriately at some point. Trust your spidey sense. Your husband needs

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Text - Kithykat • 1d NTA. Ask your husband if a guy was cooking for you or buying you lunch every day, calling and texting outside of work, bought you gifts and wouldn't respect your husband's stated boundaries, what he'd think. Not to mention the age comments and apparent attitude she has towards you. Reply 1 5 < ...

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Text - erinsalyer • 1d NTA. Some chick offered to bring my (then fiancé) peanut butter pie once in front of me. She like made a whole big deal about it because she wanted to make it special for him because he liked it. I'm not usually one to get upset about that shit, but it's been 6+ years and to this day it still pisses me off when I think about it. She didn't do it because of the pie, she did it because she wanted to flaunt her friendship with him in front of me because she's that kind of gir

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