Monday, September 28, 2020

Bride Threatens To Un-Invite Dad's Girlfriend If She Wears Off-White Dress


This bride decided to consult the people of Reddit on whether or not she was in the wrong for threatening to un-invite her dad's girlfriend from the wedding if she wore an off-white wedding dress. The collective opinion would seem to be that the bride was not in the wrong at all. The only person that should be rocking the white dress at the wedding is the bride. 

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Text - AITA for saying my dad's girlfriend can't come to my wedding if she plans on wearing a certain dress? Not the A-hole So yesterday was my birthday and I was spending the day with my fiancé, one of my best friends and her boyfriend. Since it was a nice day, we decided to go out to a patio for some drinks to celebrate. Well, part way through the day I just happened to be scrolling on Instagram where I see my dad's girlfriend had posted a picture of what she was planning to wear for the weddi

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Text - I was livid. It's literally an off-white silk slip dress and matching blazer. There's no mistaking the colour since she took it straight from the website itself. I showed everyone who I was with that day and they were immediately surprised. I texted my sister as well and she seemed upset. I texted my dad immediately as well and asked if about the post and questioned if it was in fact the colour she had posted, since when I went to the website they had it in different colours as well. Unfo

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Text - His girlfriend ended up sending me a belated birthday message today, and I guess he was at least on his way home because she also told me she had taken down the post because "she wanted it to be a surprise for my dad" wtf...? And that the colour was supposedly "beige" as she put it. I sent a message back to her saying that I am uncomfortable with her wearing a dress so similar in colour to mine and have asked her not to wear it, she has not replied to me. What I find kind of ironic is she

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Text - I alled my dad once he was home and told him, I'm not okay with her wearing that dress, we've had to make a lot of big changes to our wedding and that is one thing I am standing firm on. I told him l'm sorry if I put him in a tough position, but l'm putting my foot down on this. I've already got people saying is she shows up in it, they will turn her away on my behalf. I hate being rude and I don't want to come across as a bridezilla or anything but I think I'm justified in the way I'm fe

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Text - First off, I don't understand why people would jump to the conclusion of this damaging my relationship with my dad beyond repair. Durning my call with him, he was very understanding and wasn't trying to change my mind, he just wanted to know what was happening since he had been away for the weekend. I would NEVER let something like this ruin my relationship with my father, and I wholeheartedly believe he wouldn't either. To everyone saying that it's dumb that I have uninvited her, I haven

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Text - An update: She has responded to my message when I told her I was uncomfortable with the colour, stating it "looks darker in person" and "she was unaware I had a dress code in mind". I have reiterated that unfortunately I just don't feel comfortable with the colour at all and have asked her to chose something else. Our messages have been friendly, but formal to each other. I am hoping she completely understands now not to wear it hopefully.

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Text - I also want to make it clear that I have no ill will for this woman, she and my dad have been dating for 3+ years now and I know she makes him happy. Obviously we aren't best friends, but I normally don't have any problems with her. We're just not seeing eye to eye on this situation. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the message is clear about this particular dress, and I hope it does jot damage our relationship. Will update further if anything else happens.

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Text - yukidaviji • 19h • Partassipant [4] 1 Award NTA. Everyone knows that you don't wear white/colors close to white to a wedding when you aren't the bride. I also find it odd she asked to wear the color of the bridesmaids when she isn't one. If she had just shown up wearing the color without asking or knowing it was the bridesmaid color, that's normal/coincidental. But to specifically ask about wearing it...feels like she's trying to inject herself into your wedding. Reply 1 6.5k

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Text - alongstrangesomethin • 19h • Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] NTA The only person that should be wearing white on a wedding is the bride. She either chooses a different dress or she skips the wedding. That day isn't about her. Reply 362 ...

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Text - ljustwanttolookatpor • 19h • Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA - Don't uninvite her, you just need to get a special friend to accidentally spill red wine all over her when she arrives. Reply 1 1.2k ...

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Text - pineboxwaiting • 19h • Asshole Aficionado [18] NTA What is with these mothers wearing pseudo- wedding dresses to their kids' weddings? They are announcing to all the world that they are petty, insecure assholes. Why do they do it? You are so far within your bounds to ask her to not wear white, beige or blush to the wedding, and she's just a piece of work if she does it anyway. Here's the thing, though. She's probably going to do it anyway. Mentally prepare yourself for that and do NOT all

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Text - Lily2404 • 18h • Certified Proctologist [24] NTA, you don't wear a white dress to a wedding that's not your own, everybody knows that. Good thing that she was dumb enough to post it on Instagram. She is also perfectly aware that it's wrong, because when she realized you knew she tried to hide it from your dad deleting the post. Reply 122

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Text - NickP39 • 19h NTA. Nope it's your wedding day. It's special for you and your husband. Reply 112 ...

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Text - Competitive_Tea2413 • 18h • Partassipant [2] NTA. Not being rude, it is the height of tackiness to wear, white, off white, ivory, cream, beige, ecru any colour that would have people mistake your outfit for a wedding dress/ outfit. I would text her again, make it clear, that she is more than welcome at Your Wedding, but Not in that outfit in THAT or any similar colour. It is Tacky to try to upstage the Bride at a wedding & she will be turned away if she turns up in that or any similar col

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Text - chatondedanger • 18h • Asshole Aficionado [12] NTA. Some colors are off limit for certain events. White/ cream/beige/off white (and sometime light silver, basically anything that could be mistaken for white) are off limits for weddings. If she didn't know this, she knows now and has more than enough time to plan a different outfit. Reply 35 ...

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Text - littleruntosaurus • 19h NTA. You spent lots of time and effort into planning this. You shouldn't have to accommodate to others in your own wedding. Especially since you've made it clear you didn't want the dresses to clash with each coordinating position for the wedding. Reply 26 ...

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Text - queenoreo • 19h • Professor Emeritass [93] NTA. It's inappropriate and bad form. There can't be adult women who still don't know this. Reply 1 37 ...

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Text - krissamcd • 18h NTA. Why are we constantly having to have conversations with people about not wearing a color similar to the bride. It's common sense. That and you don't propose at a wedding. I feel like those are two obvious rules, why do people not follow them? Reply 20

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Text - LoonyCupcake • 10h NTA This was an issue at my own wedding except it was two women. One was my brother's GF which hates me and another was the wife of my husband's friend. The friend asked if she can wear certain dresses, even sent my husband pictures of the risky cuts. We asked for it just not to be the bridal party color and of course, white/off-white. My brother asked what the bridesmaid were wearing. I thought she be nice to avoid it. Oh no, she wore exactly the same color but had a s

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Text - BOrOB1rd • 6h NTA. It would be a real shame if someone accidentally spilled blackcurrant juice on it as she was walking into the ceremony. Reply 4 + ...

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Text - The-Moocat •6h• Partassipant [1] NTA. You don't wear the same color as the bride to the wedding, especially if she asks specifically for you not to. It's not unreasonable to ask this, it's a tacky thing for her to do. Also especially since she specifically wanted to wear a bridesmaid color seems very suspect, too. Reply 5 ...

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Text - McShoobydoobydoo • 16h NTA, i'm thick as shite when it comes to wedding etiquette but even I know that no one wears white to a wedding other than the bride. I'm also very clumsy so if you need a friendly wine spiller on the door then I could gie it a go :) Reply 8 ... >

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Text - neuronerd88 • 13h So NTA! It's not unreasonable to not have people dressed in white at your wedding! It takes attention away from you since people will be talking about the crazy person who wore white to the wedding! It is your day! You get to dictate dress code and everything else! I had to do this at my wedding! My own mother wanted to wear a WHITE LACE dress to my wedding! I of course vetoed that and she tried to wear it to other events such as the rehearsal dinner and bridal shower an

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Text - CasaDeShenanigans • 11h NTA. Buy the same dress and wear it to your rehearsal dinner. Make sure to post lots of photos online of the dinner. Then she won't want to wear hers to the wedding. Problem solved. Reply 3 ...

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Text - ElegantSecond • 11h NTA this doesn't even have to be a concern a bride has to have. Like who would even think that was ассeptable. Reply ...

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Text - catmom6353•6h NTA. 2 people wear white to a wedding: the bride and the flower girl. And now the flower girl usually wears something off-white anyways (blush for example is common in my area). And omg don't match the bridesmaids. She will look awful! Reply 3 + ...

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Text - imsorrydontyellatme • 15h • Partassipant [1] NTA Funny story. My bridesmaids wore a dark purple. I'm like 97% sure I told my brother but I can't remember. He shows up that morning with his girlfriend, his best friend (like a brother to me), and he other best friend (like a sister)... all in purple. Like both girls in a shade of purple dress and my brother and his friend had matching button up shirts and ties that were light purple. My brother was upset that it happened and I told him it w

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