Tuesday, July 21, 2020

Applicant's Mother Barges Into Interview, Costing Him Job


From this hiring manager's perspective, it seems like a good reason to discount an applicant if their mom keeps answering the interview questions. For another tale of an overreaching parent, here's a parent who hired a private investigator to check out their nanny. On the other side of things, here's an applicant who got to call out a company's horrible interview process.

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Text - r/AmItheAsshole - Posted by u/apartmentroublee 1 day ago AITA for telling this college guy's mom that her coming into his interview cost him the job? Not the A-hole I am a hiring manager at a tech company and I was hiring for summer internships a little while ago. We had a guy, about 19 years old, applying for a summer internship between his freshman and sophomore years of college. It was a virtual interview over Zoom because of covid.

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Text - A minute or two in, when I was introducing myself, his mom came in and introduced herself and started talking about her son's work ethic. I thought it was a little strange. I said something polite about wanting to hear from him. She just didn't get the hint and kept coming into camera frame during the interview and interrupting her son to answer questions for him. I asked a few technical questions which he seemed to answer well and then cut the interview fairly short. I thought that was a

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Text - It bothered me, I felt bad for the kid honestly. Wayyy back when I was a teenager, my mom used to pull the same shit, but luckily she only did that when I was 15 and working for a day-camp, not when I was an adult applying for engineering jobs. But I felt like this poor kid was getting his chances ruined because his mom wasn't giving him the chance to apply on his own. I sent an email back saying I was not at liberty to send information about an application to anybody but the applicant. I

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Text - Anyway, after we sent that, I got a phone call from his mom, she had a forwarded copy of the email, and she was demanding answers. I said that I could not comment on the guy's performance in the interview to her as she was not the applicant. If he wanted to reach out to me I was happy to give him some feedback. However, I could say that regardless of his performance, her presence in the interview took him out of consideration for the position. We were looking for an independent and self-d

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Text - I also said that, as a piece of advice, every hiring manager I've met in my career who sees someone other than the applicant answering questions during an interview, following up on the applicant's behalf, etc... Would also put their resume in the "do not hire" pile. Since, while the applicant may be skilled and motivated, they need the ability to demonstrate those traits themselves. She fucking blew up at me over that, kinda cussing me out to the point where I hung up. AITA for how I han

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Text - Cat_got_ya_tongue Asshole Aficionado [17] 32.6k points . 1 day ago NTA It's probably better for the kid you told her directly, seeing as she clearly does not respect him enough to believe him if he disclosed she cost him the job. She snapped at you because you gave her feedback that painted her in a poor light and she thought she did her son a wonderful favour. You're probably the first person in a while to stand up to her.

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Text - thegoldenratio011235 Partassipant [1] 6.8k points · 1 day ago · edited 21 hours ago NTA. Helicopter mom needed to be put in her place. Hopefully she learns. Sadly, while I think its shitty someone gets put in the DNH pile for something like that; I can completely understand why. Hopefully the young man can solve that issue and get hired on somewhere.

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Text - FullmetalBlue13 Partassipant [3] 3.1k points - 1 day ago Bruh NTA. I feel so bad for that poor guy (not for the job per se, but for his controlling mum), but you just did your job and she deserved the cold shower (and a reasonable dose of humility).

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Text - scarfknitter 1.9k points · 1 day ago NTA. She needs to be told. Maybe her son has told her or not but someone outside her bubble needs to be told. I say this as someone who was in her son's shoes. My dad would do the same stupid stuff. He would call about interviews and job applications. He used to call out of work for me (if I sneezed on the phone or if he wanted to punish me or anything really, he'd call and say I wasn't coming in) and do other stuff that would intentionally or not sabo

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Text - Un_Filtered 469 points · 1 day ago NTA. This is a lawnmower parent. She hovers and attempts to mow down all obstacles in her son's way. She needs to hear that, for his sake. I feel so badly for this kid. I hope he didn't lose the job just because of her. If he did, though, it's a hard lesson all the way around.

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