Tuesday, October 20, 2020

Woman's Friend Accuses Her Of Stealing Baby Name


Um, so it's not like someone is able to have ownership over a name. Especially considering the context of this situation, and the fact that the woman's friend hasn't even had her next baby yet, and is unsure if that baby's going to be a girl or not. But no, instead she insists on making a whole drama out of something that seems like it never should've been a drama in the first place. 

For some more juicy baby name drama check out this story about a woman wanting to name her baby "Alibi." Yikes. 

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Text - AITA for "stealing" a baby name? Not the A-hole So, my best friend is about 5 months pregnant. When she first found out we had fun brainstorming names together for both boys and girls. When she found out she was having a boy we were thrilled and she settled on the name Josh. I'm not going to lie, as soon as we knew it was a boy all the other name options kind of evaporated from my head... maybe that makes me a shitty friend but it's the truth. Then, last month I found out l'm pregnant as

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Text - When I told my friend she was extremely upset because Ada was the girl name they wanted to use (again, I frankly forgot, it was months ago and we had talked about several other girl names that she wanted). Now she won't speak to me because she's convinced her next baby will be a girl and they're already planning on calling her Ada, so l'm "stealing" their name. I understand that it's hurtful that I forgot their hypothetical girl name choice, but does that really make me TA here?

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Text - GirlMcGirlface • 1d • Partassipant [1] 1 Award NTA She's mad at you for a ridiculous reason. My Best friend of 20 years got mad at me when I named my daughter. She wasn't even pregnant or planning on kids at the time, and my name only rhymed with the name she wanted to call her hypothetical baby. She went on to have 3 boys. If l'd caved in to her ridiculousness and changed the name, it would have been for nothing. Keep the name Ada, you probably won't even be friends with this person in f

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Text - TopaztheBigBoss • 1d • Certified Proctologist [21] NTA. You said it is a family name on both your and your husband's side. Also, people don't "call" names for their kids. What if you got a baby book and read off all the names to your friend. Does that mean she can't use one of them? Reply 220 ...

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Text - Main_Pick_4174 • 1d NTA! Honestly, how many times were there 3 girls named Katherine (or some variation of that name), Hannah, Brittany, or Kelly growing up? On top of that, the earliest she will be able to have another kid is over a year away assuming she gets pregnant right away AND it is a girl. She has PLENTY of time to find a new favorite name or still use Ada. She is just being extra. Reply 1 115 ...

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Text - GrymDraig • 1d • Pooperintendant [53] NTA. You can't "steal" a name. It's not something one person gets exclusive rights to. You said yourself it is a family name on both sides of your family, so it clearly has meaning to you. This person is being unreasonable. Reply 1 122 ...

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Text - bitchy_badger • 1d • Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] NTA- no one owns a name. You have your own reasons for wanting this name. She doesn't even know if she will ever have a girl, are you supposed to not use it because maybe one day 3 years from now she will want it. Reply 1 22 ...

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Text - togocann49 • 1d • Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA -your friend can still use the name. And also, your friend may not have another child, let alone a girl Reply 40 ...

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Text - The_Iron_Quill • 1d NTA based on what's written here. The only way that you'd be an (unintentional) AH is if she'd specifically told you that she planned on using the name Ada, and you didn't talk to her before announcing it. (I don't mean just "I love the name Ada", I mean literally "I'm going to name my next baby Ada".) To be clear, you're not obligated to let her have dibs on the name. You still have just as much claim to the name. But if she'd told you that she'd picked that name and

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Text - wadingin3 • 1d • Asshole Aficionado [14] NTA but give her time and space to work it out. I can't speak for you or your friend, but pregnancy hormones really messed with my internal emotional regulation gauge. It was even worse with my first because I ascribed emotional importance to SO many things which, in retrospect, were not important. Once I had actually given birth (and even more so with subsequent kids) I had a much better grasp of what was worth getting upset over and what wasn't.

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Text - bust_a_moose • 1d • Partassipant [4] NTA. It's pretty clear your friend is being ridiculous Reply ...

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Text - AmazingAd2765 • 1d • Asshole Aficionado [10] NTA She doesn't have exclusive rights to a name because she considered it before learning the gender of her baby. Reply ...

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Text - newsunicorn • 1d NTA I have a close group of friends and 3 of them have Jacobs. One was named because my friend liked the name, the second was named after my friend's brother. Not sure about the third. Either way, no one cared. Reply ...

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Text - Narshalla • 20h NTA. The only way to win this game is to not play at all. Name your kids what you want to name them. Reply ...

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Text - StargazerNataku • 20h NTA. For starters, you are having a daughter. She may never. But more importantly, why on earth does it matter if the kids have the same name? My husband and I have chosen a name for a future son that means a lot to us (family name). Two of our best friends already have a son with that name. It is not the end of the world. I'm not angry they used it and they're not upset we plan to. Two different families, two different children. Who cares? Reply 1 3 ...

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Text - Joxey • 21h NTA - currently about to give birth (seriously my baby needs to come out already), and my husband and I were brainstorming name. At first he wanted to name the baby after himself, I vetoed that one real quick. And after some brainstorming, it turned out that the : names we chose were already being used by friends' baby or his nephew. I told him tough luck but sorry I am not going to name my baby some ridiculous name I don't really like because I need to tip toe around everyone

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Text - confusedhelpme22 • 19h • Partassipant [2] NTA she could have all boys. People have the right to name their kids whatever they want! Also, my husband and I are naming out next baby Ada Grace if it's a girl. Reply Vote ...

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Text - stink3rbelle • 22h • The Rear Admiral NAH. You say you don't remember the other names, which is believable enough. But baby names are a big deal to people, and it's something people invest a lot of time and care in. You definitely talked about the name "Ada" with this friend when you brainstormed baby names with her. I think it was kind of shoddy not to mention that it was a name you'd consider for your own kids, and that it was a family name for your and your husband's families. That goe

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Text - Square-Concept • 1d NTA. You mentioned it because you liked it. My mom "stole" my name from her sister, who was newly pregnant. They got over it. Reply Vote ...

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Text - LibraWoman1 • 1d NTA. For one thing she may never have a daughter. For another if you were brainstorming with your friend because it's a family name for you it's probably one that you suggested. Great she may have said she liked it but it's a family name for you ...end of story Reply Vote ...

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Text - pattystangerknowsit • 1d NTA and this woman needs to get over herself. Phulesse... she crazy Reply Vote ...

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Text - Marzipan_civil • 1d • Partassipant [2] NTA - she's not calling her baby boy by the name you chose, she might never have a girl. %3D Reply Vote ...

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Text - neutralgood079•22h • Partassipant [1] NTA you chose from a list and you like the name. She is not having a girl anytime soon so her argument makes zero sense. Unless the name has some special family ties (still thinking of that AH girl that stole the irish family name) NTA Reply Vote ...

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Text - proteamom • 22h NTA. I had a "friend" behind my back tell everyone I was stealing her girl name "Luna"... she wasn't even pregnant yet and when she did get pregnant it was a boy. I ended up on a different name... but still laugh at how ridiculous she was about it. Reply 1 Vote ...

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Text - BBQPringles420 • 21h NTA. my sister has a boy and a girl. she had names she liked but never used. i took one of the names she liked an added it to my name list because she said she "doesn't want more children" i'm not even pregnant and she's angry at me about it but i told her "if you're not gonna use it, i will. it's a nice name" and that was that. she didn't say anything else because she knew i was right Reply Vote ...

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Text - Smiley-Canadian • 21h NTA. Your friend is being ridiculous. Choose the original name you had planned. Reply Vote ...

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Text - StaceysMomPlus2more • 20h NTA... but THIS is why I didn't tell people what I was naming either of my girls whileI was pregnant. These are petty, useless arguments. Reply Vote ...

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Text - madkins007 • 19h NTA. What's the deal with calling dibs on a name? Are they afraid that the kids are going to grow up together and everyone will be confused? It's a little different in a family, or if the name is a really unusual and super cool one (my kids have had a long running mock battle over the fabulous name of Klontark) Reply Vote ...

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Text - BronwynLane • 17h NTA. This is HS level petty bullshit. It feels like two friends crushing on the same person, that person showing interest in one of them & the other acting like their friend stole them away or something. You both like it, one actually gets it. You can't claim a name unless you've already named a fetus or a human (or I suppose if it has a big personal meaning.) Like lol, time to be adults now. & by the time she has a girl (if she has a girl) her entire naming preferences

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Text - Nannamuss • 16h • Partassipant [2] NTA - Do you know how many people are called "Martin" in my country? Or Casper? I had 4 named Casper in my class. Did it bother anyone? No. I don't get this new fad about needing your child's name to be unique or special. It's a name! and lots of people have the same names. Your friend needs to get over herself and stop calling dips on stuff. What if it was a name you ALWAYS had wanted your daughter to be named, but she called "dips" before she knew this

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Text - KathAIMyPal • 15h NTA. This reminds me of the Sex and the City episode where Charlotte's friend "stole" her baby name...and Charlotte wasn't even married or pregnant yet. Does your friend think that no one else will ever use the name Ada? Guaranteed that there will be at least 1/2 dozen Josh's in his class! Just because she feels that she will have a girl next doesn't mean she's going to...and even if she did her and her husband could change their minds about names. Name your child what y

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Text - switchbladeeatworld • 13h NTA, you can't win here because any name could be on her list. Anecdotally, my friend is mad at me for my cats name because it is her hypothetical future daughter's name... and I didn't even name my cat because I adopted her as an adult so go figure, names be a touchy subject. Reply Vote ...

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