Saturday, April 8, 2023

'My home, my rules': Grown millennial daughter uses malicious compliance to get her boomer mom, a 40+ year smoker, to quit smoking


Sometimes you have to get a little feisty to help someone you love. When the end justifies the means, ya know? This is exactly what one grown millennial daughter did for her boomer mothers. 

The adult millennial, Reddit user @Ambitious-Writer-825, posted something to the subreddit r/MaliciousCompliance, but a different type of story than the usual one you see on that thread. Usually you see someone using malicious compliance for exactly what it defines to, complying but only with malicious intent. However, this millennial may have felt malicious in her actions and conveyed that it felt more like petty revenge, but her "malicious compliance" actually had benevolent outcomes. 

The millennial daughter grew up in a household with the classic boomer parenting rule, "my home, my rules." It's probably safe to say that most millennials heard at least once in their life, "as long as you're under MY roof! bla bla bla." So, when this millennial daughter grew up, found her own home, and started her own family, she decided that this rule would not just apply to her kids, but to her own parents. She had just had a baby and the mother wanted to spend time with her grand-baby. However, this boomer mother, now grandmother, was a very heavy smoker. So the new mom laid down the rule that her own mother set when she was a child of having to abide by the rules of the homeowner. So she told her she could not smoke around the baby, ever, and she couldn't get wear clothes that she had smoked in previously if she wanted to be near the baby. 

The boomer mother was flabbergasted that her own rule came back to haunt her as a grandma, but she couldn't turn back on her words now. So this "malicious" compliance (or should we say benevolent compliance?) helped a boomer grandmother who had been an avid smoker for 40+ years quit cold turkey. 

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