Guy Asks Girlfriend With Abandonment Issues if He Can Go on a Trip With His Friends, She Loses It

Note to self: if you're dating someone with major abandonment issues, good luck trying to schedule any time with other people!

 

This guy has had to skip out on several of his annual biking trips with his friends because his girlfriend is uncomfortable with the two of them being apart. He posted his story to this thread on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit. Now, if there were a history of, say, infidelity or something of that variety, perhaps this would make sense. But that doesn't seem to be the case here. Instead, we have a case of good old-fashioned abandonment issues.

 

After the couple worked out some of their issues (at least, temporarily), his girlfriend seemed willing to allow him to go on the next trip provided that they were still in a good place. Things continued to go well, the poor boyfriend thought they were in a good enough place for him to book the next trip with his buddies, and he and his girlfriend even went on a vacation of their own together. Once that was done and he brought up the next friend trip, it started all over again. There were tears, there was shouting, and if you listened closely, you could hear the ticking clock that is their relationship.

 

Our takeaway here falls in line with our takeaway for most relationship issues: one or both of you need therapy. She needs therapy to dissect her abandonment issues and perhaps the guy needs to reflect on why he's still in this relationship because it just seems like a vicious cycle at this point. And before one of you in the comments even says it, the failure here is not premarital $ex. 

 

For more relationship drama, take a look at this story, where a woman snuck out of a restaurant before having to pay for her fiancé and his friend's meal. Keep scrolling below for u/HatsofftoJJ's original post and the feedback he received online!