Saturday, June 27, 2020

Groom Says Fiancé Can Only Buy Wedding Dress If He Can Splurge Too


This groom pitched a fit about his fiancé wanting to get a wedding dress that was $350. My dude, this is a wedding that we're talking about. If you and your fiancé truly had enough in savings to make a comment about just how much you have in savings, then maybe it's best to not worry about your fiancé wanting to get what sounds like a very reasonable wedding dress. The people in the comments section of this particular aita seem to agree. 

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Text - Text - AITA for telling my fiancé she can only buy a wedding dress if I get to spend the same amount Asshole My fiancée and I are getting married in October and I couldn't be more excited. Currently she's unemployed because her job permanently shut down due to the lockdown so the income comes from me and her unemployment. I make good money so I don't care if she gets another job, I can support us. Money is a little tight lately because we very suddenly had to buy a new car. We haven't rea

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Text - Text - Last night my fiancée came into our bathroom while I was shaving and looked a little nervous. She asked if she could buy a $350 wedding dress that she's been looking at for months. I kind of looked at her and asked where the $350 would come from. She said we had a lot of money in our savings we hadn't touched, and it would barely make a dent in our savings. I thought about it for a second and told her if she gets to splurge $350 on a dress I get to spend $350 on whatever I want. Sh

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Text - Text - When I walked into our bedroom she was under the covers and facing away from me. We haven't talked since. I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable but AITA? Edit: I never really looked at how much dresses are. They really are expensive and that's a shock. We paid our whole wedding and I knew that would be expensive, but since dresses are her thing and l'm not supposed to see them, I never looked. I love my fiancée and I want her to feel beautiful. I feel like a total asshole. I jus

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Text - Text - Edit #2: the way we've always done things in our relationship is if I splurge on x amount of money, she gets to as well, we always have, even before she lost her job. So that was my mindset. Which was not the mindset I should have had. Last edit: we've talked about it. I've apologized. We're good. I'm going to put this post to rest because I learned l'm the asshole, but my fiancée wanted to read through it to laugh at me getting my ass virtually handed to me, and also share the dre

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Text - Text - SeasonalGreetings • 2d 1 Award YTA 100% man. Come on now. Not for the reason you might think either. A wedding dress being $350 is actually cheap, yes you can find cheaper ones out there but those are almost always lower quality and not a good idea, this is a once in a lifetime thing (hopefully) and you're paying to insure there aren't wardrobe malfunctions, last minute issues, the scene in the moment. Idk how far out your wedding is but when you start really getting down to planni

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Text - Text - But anyways that's not even the reason YTA. YTA because it sounds like you don't even know what you want to spend $350 on, you just said "if you get to spend it so do l" which firstly is simply a WTF thing to say. Like honestly I clicked on this and was like is he buying a tux for the wedding? Secondly why would you start this post with explaining that money is right and then throw in for random that she want a $350 dress so now you're going to buy 'whatever I want' in exchange. So

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Text - Text - Thirdly the biggest reason YTA: she said she had been looking at this dress for months. She obviously looked around, probably saw prices, saw quality, saw herself on her wedding day when you look at her and tell her she's beautiful. And then you put that image and dream again nothing. You told her she can only spend the money on her dream dress if you go to spend it on whatever you want. You put her feelings down in that moment, you told her months of yearning for that dress was th

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Text - Text - Honestly it's petty. If you actually had something in particular you wanted you could have brought that up separately and had that moment been about her. You could have asked if she loved the dress, maybe something to complement her style and saying you couldn't wait to see her in it. Honestly girls can really get their hopes up for stuff like this and a little bit of support from you in this moment very well could have made planning the entire wedding easier. Having that moment be

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Text - Text - It stakes you against her. Any relationship, especially that of marriage, should be you and that person against others. Never you against her. I forgot where that quote is from but seriously take that to heart. Actions that make the two of you look like enemies aren't one you ever want to make and once you two start seeing each other as adversaries instead of partners your marriage is over, maybe before it gets the chance to start. You don't have to give in to everything she wants

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Text - henchwench89 • 2d • Asshole Aficionado [19] YTA 350 for a wedding dress is nothing. Reply 1 232 ...

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Text - Text - lightwoodorchestra • 2d • Professor Emeritass [87] 1 Award 'I make good money so I don't care if she gets another job, I can suppert us hold it over her head that I'm the only earner and deny her an incredibly cheap wedding dress'. FTFY. Presumably you are still planning to spend some money on the wedding, yes? If you need to postpone so you can save money that's one thing. But you're just being a jerk for no reason. Reply 1.9k ...

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Text - Text - Teppic5 • 2d • Partassipant [4] YTA. Wedding dresses aren't cheap, and women's clothes in general cost more than men's. But you just said you're happy being the sole breadwinner for the household. You should be discussing expensive purchases related to your wedding, sure, but dictating terms like that is an AH move. Reply 4.8k ...

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Text - Text - 2 Awards I'm glad you've realized YTA, but please use this as a learning opportunity moving forward: You were incredible unkind to your fiance because you didn't know how expensive wedding dresses are. If you didn't know about a wedding dress when you're literally planning your wedding, l'd venture to guess you don't know a lot of other things women bave to deal with. And that means you're liable to do stuff like this again. Be aware of your subconscious bias and things where you a

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Text - Text - MuchoMangoes • 2d • Asshole Enthusiast [7] YTA. I'm so sad for your fiance right now, I wish I could give her a hug. $350 for a wedding dress is pennies. I bet she spent hours looking for a decent dress that cheap because she knew there was a limited budget. And you still had to shit all over it. Reply 783 ...

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Text - Text - coastalshelves • 2d • Asshole Enthusiast [5] YTA. If you're going to keep score like this you have no business getting married. The fact that she was nervous asking you if she was 'allowed' to buy a $350 wedding dress (this is super cheap by the way) says a lot about the way you treat her. In a healthy relationship this shouldn't make anyone nervous. And she was right: you turned it around on her in an extreme show of pettiness. This is awful. Your poor fiancée. You seriously don't

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Text - Text - NakedStreets • 2d • Certified Proctologist [24] YTA You couldn't be more excited... but you don't want the bride to have a wedding dress?? And your motivation is... spite? I'm not getting it. It's certainly not frugality, because you're proposing doubling a wedding expense for no reason. $350 is practically the cheapest wedding dress in the history of the world. The fact that she was nervous to bring it up with you shows serious issues in your relationship. If you aren't in premari

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Text - Text - tenminutesbeforenoon • 2d • Asshole Aficionado [17] YTA. Were you the type of kid people had to give a present when it was your little brother's birthday, because otherwise you would cry and have a temper tantrum? Because you sure do sound like this. Your future wife is trying to look nice on your special day and 350 dollars is not an outrageous amount of money for a dress. If you find it too expensive, fine, and she can look for something else, but don't play the 'but what about m

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Text - talkinglaughing • 1d YTA. If you're so worried about money then why would you want to spend $700 instead of $350? That just makes no sense. It's a power play. Reply 1 81 ...

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Text - Text - bluesquish • 2d YTA Major yikes. Things you spend on the wedding are supposed to be important and something you splurge on a little. $350 is beyond inexpensive for a wedding dress. Usually dresses start at $1000 and lots of the ones you see in magazines or online are $5000+ Reply 180 ...

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Text - Text - do_mika • 2d • Partassipant [2] YTA, you won't find many wedding dresses in good condition without needing to spend a lot in alterations below that price. It'd be more realistic if you got to spend $350 on something you want for the wedding. Reply 62 ...

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Text - MORALVigilance • 2d • Partassipant [1] YTA. If you can't see why, don't get married. It won't last. Reply 132 ...

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Text - Text - ClashRunner • 2d YTA. That's a more-than-reasonable price for a wedding dress and your reaction of "what about me, what do I get" is pretty childish. Spend the money gladly and enjoy your wedding day knowing you weren't too stingy for your fiancée to get her dream dress. Reply 96 ...

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Text - Text - rs_plays_ac • 2d • Partassipant [2] YTA. Like utterly, completely, and without a doubt. And $350 from a wedding dress is a steal, also what kind of partner considers a dress for their wife to wear at their wedding is self-indulgence? If the budget is too tight then just tell her no? Your way was definitely an asshole move. Reply 27 ...

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Text - Text - throwaway37865 • 2d YTA. It's a wedding ffs of course she needs a wedding dress. I'm blatantly surprised by the inherent selfishness to want to deny her something. If something is in my power to give (and isn't a monetary issue which I'm assuming it's not since you want something as well) I will gladly want to give that to someone I care for. I'm honestly disturbed that you denied this especially when she asked in a timid way and that you didn't seem to apologize after making her c

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Text - shibattitude • 1d YTA - watch one episode of Say Yes To The Dress and you will be kissing your fiancée's feet and profusely thanking her for picking a $350 dress. Reply 1 23 ...

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Text - Text - 1qazOplmgh • 2d • Asshole Aficionado [15] YTA because you didn't say that you wanted to spend the same on your suit which would have been reasonable but you just said that you could just spend the money on anything. The two situations aren't comparable as she needs something to wear for the wedding and for a wedding dress that is cheap Reply 1 20 ...

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Text - Text - R3dditNw33p • 1d YTA-A lot of people are hung up on how insanely affordable $350 is and for that reason you're such the unreasonable a-hole. And while they're technically right, the issues are that 1.) this is an extremely important, sentimental garment for what will be likely one of the biggest days of your lives. No, it's not just any old stupid dress you can write off as any old shopping buy. The fact that you are doing so sends a message to your fiancé that your wedding day is

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Tumblr Thread: Angels And Demons Bond Over Sandwiches


Tumblr does it again with this treasure of a thread that imagines a world where demons and angels are befriending one another over stellar sandwiches. Additionally, the story suggests that angels and demons are often times estranged friends and family members. Now that sets the stage for a powerful drama to break out. Fortunately, the "drama" ends up being a silly, vaguely wholesome water gun/balloon fight. 

Check out some more Tumblr gold with this thread about how elves are flat earthers with scary eyes.

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Text - writing-prompt-s While putting your favorite condiment on a sandwich, you accidentally make a magical occult symbol and summon a demon. A teawitch You silently take two more slices of bread out of the package and make another sandwich. You put it on a plate with a handful of potato chips and hand it to the demon. He takes the sandwich, smiles and vanishes in a puff of demonic smoke. The next day you get that job promotion you were after. There was no contract. No words spoken. You owe not

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Text - geeko-sapiens Can I keep this going? I'm going to keep this going. It would be a little annoying, if they weren't so nice about it. You don't know what you expected demons to be like, but you certainly didn't expect them to be nice about it. There's no demands, no voices like wailing babies, no blood on the walls (well, there was that one time, but Balthazak was very apologetic about the whole thing and cleaned it up right quick). Just the occasional demon stopping by for lunch. In fact,

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Text - You start talking with them, as time goes on. In the beginning you carefully pick your words so they couldn't be spun to even imply a contract or reference a soul, but when they seem politely eager to have a normal chat, your words become a bit looser. You even begin gossiping with them - turns out, demons have breakroom gossip just like anyone else. You listened to Rek'ththththtyr's account of Drokyarix's torrid affair with Irkilliz, and Ferkiyan didn't even know what Drory was doing beh

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Text - finally broke up with him (the shirt was a bit of a loss, demon tears are ruinous to cloth, but Ferkiyan's a good sort and you couldn't just turn him away). You even managed to talk him down from going and starting a fight with Irkiliz, who didn't even know that Drokyarix was in a relationship, and who was almost as horrified as Rek'ththththtyr. After that event in particular, you start to get a sort of a reputation as a place where a demon can come to relax, talk, and - of course - get a

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Text - One day, there's a bright flash of light from your living room. Nothing unusual in itself - most of the younger demons haven't quite got the style of their elders, and usually just go for a materialization in a flash of hellfire over your fireplace - except that it's white instead of the usual red. You look up, and who do you see but an angel looking at you with a spear in his hand. Shrugging, you tell him to sit down and you'll have a sandwich for him shortly, and meanwhile he can just t

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Text - decides to take you up on your offer and starts talking. Apparently, he'd been dispatched to take care of some demon summoner in the neighborhood, and while he'd evidently got the wrong house the right one shouldn't be hard to find - have you seen anyone practicing satanic rituals nearby? You laugh, a little, and tell him that you don't really summon them, they just come on their own. They do like their sandwiches, and they're quite nice folk. The angel's jaw drops, and you remind him to

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Text - It took a bit of explaining with the first angel to arrive. Telling him about the first accidental summoning and then how the demons just started stopping by around lunch time on your days off. But once he understood what's been going on (and finished his sandwich) he nodded solemnly and said he would get this all straightened out "upstairs." You eventually start getting more angels coming around for lunch. Sometimes they bring a small dessert for you to share after the sandwiches, and th

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Text - You lean that angels don't have much of their own drama, but they do know all the truths about human tabloid drama and they're more than willing to dish on what the Kardashians have been up to. The first time an angel and a demon show up for lunch on the same day is a little tense. You tell them that ALL are welcome for lunch in your house and that you would prefer it to be a no- conflict zone. It takes a while for them to settle, but eventually they grow comfortable enough to start chatt

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Text - because demons are technically fallen angels, you've been having two sides of an estranged family over for lunch regularly. Soon, you have an angel and a demon at every lunch. Old friends and estranged siblings meeting up to reconnect over a sandwich at your dinning room table. You help the ones who had a falling out reach an understanding, and you get to hear wild stories of what the "old realm" was like. One day, as you're pulling out the bread and cheese, a messenger demon appears. You

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Text - sandwiches." A little stunned, you agree. The demon disappears and you prepare three sandwiches, setting them at the table. When Lucifer (the actual devil!) appears in small puff of smoke, you welcome him and ask what he'd like to drink. As you're fetching the apple juice, a blinding flash of light comes from the dinning room indicating Michael's arrival. You grab a second cup and walk back in to find a tense stand off between the brothers. You set down the cups and juice while calmly rem

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Text - They don't fight. They sit and enjoy the sandwiches and talk about what happened. You learn a lot about why creation started, what the purpose of humanity was and what it's grown to be. You only have to diffuse two arguments. And at the end when it's time for them to leave, they hug each other, agreeing to meet up again somewhere else. In the following weeks you have the usual assortment of demons and angels stopping by. The regulars ask how you're mom is doing and if your friend is settl

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Text - they ask if it's true. Did Lucifer and Michael really come for lunch? You tell them yes, but won't say what was talked about. They're disappointed, everyone likes the gossip, but they understand. Before they leave, you ask each angel and demon about this idea you have for the summer, what if you had a barbecue on the back patio for everyone who wanted to come? They think it sounds like a fun idea. ladyrage8 Yep, I'm picking up, here we go! Everyone had a lot of fun at the barbecue. There

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Text - of town or older/deaf. There was a great three- legged race and a small football game with parties on all sides involved, you'd never fixed so much food before. Then, two latecomers. Angels and demons alike gasped in shock and parted like the Red Sea (Which, apparently, is a VERY exaggerated story) to let them pass. You smile warmly and ask what they'd like. Both decline to answer that, looking at each other awkwardly. The demon bows its head to let the angel speak first. God Himself hear

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Text - You look at the messenger demon, the same one as before, and as you insist that "Oh, you really should stay this time!", you're told that Lucifer ALSO wants to come to your barbecue. You look between the two. You tell them you won't deny one or the other, but that they must keep in mind that this is a neutral zone and you won't have their conflicts interfere with the atmosphere. Both vanish momentarily (after each taking a plate of food). There's a long, awkward silence.

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Carl Sagan Masterfully Disproves Flat Earthers


That didn't take too long. 

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Choosing Beggar Tries To Pull The Divorce Card


This choosing beggar thought they'd try and knock down a completely reasonable price for a nice gaming computer by dishing out some story about being divorced, and their third grader desperately wanting said computer. If one can't afford food, maybe they shouldn't be trying to buy an expensive computer. Oh well, these choosing beggars just keep on coming out of the woodwork with their unyielding demands.

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Text - Hey! So I saw you were selling a Gaming Computer for 950€. Is it possible to make the price lower? Thanks Im sorry but I cant Не make the price lower. I bought the PC for 1550€ 2,5 years ago and it works for fine so 950€ is really good price for that 1550 Euros for a Computer ?! Is this a joke?!?!?

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Text - 450 take it or leave it ma'am. The PC is going for 950€ And you are offering me 450€ You just said 1550 No I said I bought it for that price but im selling it for 950€ Oh Still Too much. How can a Computer go for a 950€ thats way too expensive Do you even know how money work?

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Text - Ma'am. The specs for the PC is in the description in the marketplace. You can google the parts of the computer and see how much they cost brand new You are not fooling anyone, my son knows computers. As I just said, You can google the parts by yourself and see

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Text - how much they cost I am going through a divorce and i dont have money to buy food and my third grader really wants a computer. Im sorry to hear that but if you dont have money, you should buy your son a cheaper computer But he wants this exact one and they didnt have those in store anymore Hmm, My computer is made of different parts so my pc has never been sold in any store

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Bride With Allergies Doesn't Want Friend's Dog At Wedding


This bride asked the people of Reddit whether or not she was in the wrong for not wanting her friend's dog at the wedding. It would seem like this particularly tough predicament boils down to the fact that they both have disabilities, and it's completely understandable that due to the bride's extenuating circumstances (intense allergies) that she wouldn't want the dog at the wedding. 

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Text - Text - silverskyes83 • 15h NTA. In all honesty I thought you would be with the title. But your wedding is something you want to enjoy. You met with her prior, explained everything. Have her options, and even offered to pay for professional services. I understand her needing her guide to be able to function, but it's your day. And not like you said he would be on her own. I think you handled it fine. Reply 1.3k ...

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Text - nippitybibble • 15h • Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA. You can no more switch your disability off for a day than she can, and it's your wedding. Was expecting to find you TA based on the title but you can't be around the dog and enjoy the day. You offered her a number of solutions and a lot of consideration, but while it's understandable as well that she doesn't want to attend without her dog, she shouldn't expect you to risk your health in an enclosed space or be too drowsy to enjoy your own

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Text - Text - yeoldedweller • 15h • Partassipant [2] NAH - Whilst I can understand your friend being upset especially as the dog is so important to their ability to get about safely. Your wedding is also important and being uncomfortable or worse is going to ruin the day for you. The fact you addressed this with them beforehand and were willing to help them find suitable arrangements so they could enjoy the wedding is what l'd consider above and beyond. Enjoy your wedding op. Reply 555 ...

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Text - Text - RussianEarlGrey • 12h This was not what I was expecting. I was ready to label you TA, especially when it was clear to me it was a Guide Dog. But then you mentioned your severe allergies where you have to take pills that make you so drowsy you can't drive. I'm on the fence (between N.A.H and N.T.A) but going with NTA. Your friend is a mild TA for her accusations of you being an ableist (had to google that, learned something new). You didn't tell her to cope by herself. You told her

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Text - Text - LOL your disability can't be switched off for the day either, and given it's your wedding day, your needs take priority. This might be one of those "a fish can't love a bird" scenarios if she's not willing to make any attempt to accommodate you. It sounds like you've spent your entire friendship accommodating her, and she seems to think her disability is more important than yours, which is BS. You've even thought of five different scenarios that might help her in absence of her dog

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Text - Text - Lysa3 • 9h • Partassipant [1] I would have said n.a.h, but this She accused me of being ableist and thinking her disability can be switched off for the day. made me change my mind to NTA. You can't switch off your allergies and other health issues. You've offered everything you could think of to make sure she could be there and you would not have to be miserable. She is TA for telling you this, as if you hadn't made all the efforts you can to accommodate the both of you on your wed

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Text - Text - Whitedragon6702 • 15h • Asshole Aficionado [10] Lmao NTA, your an ableist because apparently your severe dog allergy and asthma cause problems for you, at your own wedding, while you offered a couple different options to help suit her needs like YOU paying for a proffesional special aid to help her around. Just don't invite her Reply 168 ...

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Text - crazykaty19999• 10h NTA. Allergies as severe as yours can also be considered a disability. I'm like you only around horses and only avoidance helps! Reply ...

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Text - Text - pinkwineenthusiast • 15h · Asshole Aficionado [15] NTA. Sticky situation for sure maybe you can arrange a celebration with just friends after the wedding/ honeymoon but your allergy is reason enough. There's really no inbetween here but at that point l'd just tell her you wanted to invite her but the dog being there would really mess up your wedding and that day is about you and your partner, not her. Reply 1 39 ...

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Text - c_hriscole • 15h • Partassipant [3] NAH. If you didn't have a reaction to the pills you take to be around the dog, you would be TA. However, it is your wedding day and you have every right to not want to be drowsy and uncomfortable. You tried to make adjustments. However, I dont think she's an AH either because I can understand her not wanting to feel like she has to rely on people and that they have to watch her and take care of her during her friends wedding. She probably just wants to

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Text - Foxmiint • 11h NTA. Your friend needs to realise that it's not just HER DOG that you don't want at the wedding. Her dog or ANY DOG being there could quite literally ruin the entire day for you. She needs to get her head out of her ass and realise that, technically, her dog causes you to have a type of disability and therefore you literally can't have her there. ((Severe allergies are disabilities, they can kill and if the pills OP takes to avoid having reactions makes them super drowsy an

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Text - Sylvurphlame • 6h NTA The pertinent facts are, as I understand them. 1. friend has a legit service guide dog 2. OP is severely allergic to dogs 3. OP normally premedicates before hanging out with friend but also experiences extreme drowsiness as an interaction side effect with other mandatory meds 4. OP attempted to make alternate arrangements to accommodate friend, up to and including hiring a professional aide for the duration of the event I don't really get how not wanting the dog ther

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Text - purpleboxkite • 14h NTA Your allergen needs are JUST as important as her need to have a service dog. You put your health and safety at risk to see her. You have to take something that renders you for a lack of a better set of words... useless after you see her. If she cannot for less then like 1/4th the amount of time you give with an allowance for your allergy.. that's her problem not yours. I could understand her being upset if the dog was a medical alert dog like you said for seizures

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Text - somegarbagedoesfloat • 9h NTA. When I read the title I was 100% against you. The fact that when you offered to replace her dog with a human being who's entire purpose is to help people with disability, it became clear your friend is more interested in capitalizing on thier disability by virtue signaling and calling attention themselves. There's literally no other explanation, you're offering to upgrade them from a dog to a fucking person. Reply 6. ...

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Text - DitLas • 12h NTA - you have very valid reasons to not want the dog there. It's your wedding, you shouldn't be exposed to what gives you severe allergy and you also shouldn't be all groggy from having to take medication. You also offered her several solutions so she would still be able to attend. Your friend should really have responded way more understanding. It's not fair on you that she just accuses you the way she did. Reply ...

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Text - Sooozn85 • 11h NTA and she's being a little unreasonable. For the bride to want to be awake and aware, and breathing, at her own wedding, is beyond reasonable. Reply ...

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Text - monkey_trumpets • 9h NTA. I would say that your dog allergy is somewhat of a disability itself since it affects you so severely, and you are being forced to avoid dogs because of that. It's not your fault, and therefore you cannot be TA in this situation. You did everything you could to suggest ways of your blind friend being included and if she was at all gracious she would have accepted one of your suggestions. If she brought the dog knowing how it affects you then in a way she would be

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Text - As_lt_Was_Foretold • 7h NTA. She accuses you of " being ableist and thinking her disability can be switched off for the day" but for some reason thinks that your own health issues are of no importance and can simply be switched off while her dog is present? You have offered very reasonable alternatives to accommodate her needs. She's the one who refuses to compromise and is insisting that her rights are more important than your ability to enjoy, or even function at, your wedding. She's th

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Text - amandapollak5 • 13h NTA. Those of us who have disabilities can ALSO still be ablist. She's dismissing your very legitimate medical issue and your right to be comfortable and awake on your own wedding day. Reply 12 ...

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Text - sparx1_1 • 11h NTA There is absolutely no reason why the dog must be there. Since the environment will be both crowded and unfamiliar, there is actually very little that the dog will be able to do for her anyway. People who use guide dogs have also been trained to get around without them - it's actually a requirement for getting a guide dog in most areas. As long as she has her white cane and someone to assist her with getting around, she'll be fine and she knows it. Source: My father was

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