This young adult, who is quickly approaching his twenties, was recently presented with a problematic family situation and has turned to the r/AmItheAsshole subreddit in an appeal to reason.
The young man in question, u/Jolysa, has been convinced by his family that he is wrong. But it is clear for all of us to see that he is the victim here.
u/Jolysa worked very hard to buy himself a new PS5 this past November, complete with all of the games he had wanted and an extra controller.
His cousin, who has autism, but is also very spoiled, wanted a PS5. He began to throw tantrums when his parents were unable to secure one for him, so u/Jolysa's mother took u/Jolysa's PS5 and gave it to the cousin.
u/Jolysa was shocked. How on earth could his mother do something like that?
At least all of the commenters seem to be in complete agreement on this one. His mother has stolen from him. Plain and simple. The PS5 was not hers to take and hit was not hers to give. End of story.
All we can to is hope that PS5 is able to retain control over his PS5 and find a way to get away from his toxic family.
When Redditoru/VincentVegatheHorsegave his notice for his old position, his old company asked if they could counter.
The practice is commonplace in many industries when the existing employer is eager to keep the departing staff. This can often work to the benefit of both parties when they have an excellent current relationship. The employee gets higher pay and often more responsibility and progression in their career, and the employer gets to save the incurred costs of hiring and training new blood. The society of Human Resource Management estimated in 2016 that companies "spend an average of 42 days to fill a position and $4,129 per hire."1That's not even including the cost of the reduced efficiency and possible service downtime.
It would be best for an employee not even to consider a counteroffer from an employer when there is a likelihood that the employer is just trying to retain the employee as a stop-gap while they try to find, or train up, cheaper and "more loyal."
The thing about this whole this is that, usually, such a counteroffer would involve, well, countering the offer.
Since this employer seems to be confused about what the word counter means, here's what Merriam-Webster has to say on the subject.2
counter
verb
coun·ter | \ ˈkau̇n-tər \
countered; countering\ ˈkau̇n-t(ə-)riŋ \
transitive verb
1a: to act in opposition - to: OPPOSE
b: OFFSET, NULLIFY
tried to counter the trend toward depersonalization
2: to assert in answer.
We countered that our warnings had been ignored.
intransitive verb
: to meet attacks or arguments with defensive or retaliatory steps
To u/VincentVegatheHorse's complete and utter bewilderment, his company returned with a lower offer than the minimum he had provided them. He couldn't help but laugh.
And I f**king laughed. It's hilarious when companies are so out of touch with the current hiring environment that they don't even understand how countering a job offer works.
Commenters were quick to side with u/VincentVegatheHorse showing their support and rebuke the company.
For more stories like this that are emerging from the r/antiwork subreddit and similar forums check outthis collection of postson the subject.
The thing about people is that they don't exactly change very quickly. And if someone is telling you that they have, they super definitely haven't. Whatever issue that made your relationship not work in the first place is very likely still going to persist, and there's always a pretty good reason you left it that way.
But still, people will text their exes totally out of the blue. Even years after the supposed conclusion of that relationship. Not only will soliciting a person who likely hates you not result in your getting back together, but even supposing that it does work, you're gonna be back at square one, dealing with the problems you thought you'd escaped. Doesn't that just sound like a party?
But it is pretty funny to see what these people's exes had to say. Especially when they only had dumb things to say.
No matter who you are, where you came from, or what your goal is, you will one day find yourself wandering down the extremely tall aisles of a Home Depot looking for something stupid. As everyone knows, the way to find something in a giant hardware store is to decide on the most likely location of that item, make a B-line for that aisle, not find the item, decide on a secondary location, not find it there either, go back to the first location, consider asking for help, and then remind yourself "of course not." So you keep looking until you eventually cave and ask an employee, to which that employee will invariably say that they used to stock it but just recently ran out of that thing. It is the way of the hardware store trip, and it's an absolute blast.
Hardware stores are great. Where else can you find the twistiest boards imaginable? Where else can you wait in the paint section for twenty minutes without seeing a single soul? Where else on this planet can you walk by a wall of screws and be reminded of every other project that you're actively putting off? What a magical place.
Sadly, we don't get a lot of control over who ends up living next to us. And sometimes, people have wildly different ideas on whether or not it's appropriate to mow your lawn at three in the morning. If you're living next to someone with such soft policies on what constitutes "a completely huge and awful disturbance of the peace" then all we can say is good luck and hopefully they either move out or die soon.
Being in a feud is one thing. Sure, most of us can recall a particular person from our lives and acknowledge that we hate their filthy, stinking guts. But when that person is literally one fence away and you have to look at their big dumb face when you take out the trash, it makes day-to-day life just that much more uncomfortable.
No amount of meditation and healthy awareness can get you physically further away from a bad neighbor. So here are some times when people had to deal with some real dirtbags, lunatics and cretins who just so happened to live just within throwing distance.
