Wednesday, September 2, 2020

Teacher Rejects Mom's Request To Separate Daughter From Poor Classmate


Man, as far as helicopter parents cases go, this is one of the worst we've ever seen. This mom had the nerve to send a teacher an angry email about what kinds of kids she's comfortable with her daughter spending time with. Honestly, sounds like a nightmarish situation. Teachers really have to deal with all kinds of maddening BS. 

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Text - r/AmltheAsshole + Join u/blueuglydolls • 22h Aita for telling a mom she doesn't make the rules in my classroom? Not the A-hole First year teaching (second grade) l'll try to make this quick. So let's call the two girls Hannah and kelly. Now Hannah's mom is on the PTA, very involved, it's clear they have money, and overall her kid is great. Now I noticed Hannah's mom being really hovery over her in the classroom when she would volunteer but whatever nothing crazy.. Hannah and kelly have be

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Text - friends with her anymore because she didn't have a high Quality enough family that her family was junkie. Our school has a zero tolerance bullying and exclusion rule. When I went over to talk to Hannah she explained that her mom told her she couldn't be friends with Kelly for those reasons but that she really wanted to. I told Hannah her mom didn't make the rules for my classroom. Well I ended up getting a nasty email from Hannah's mom saying that it's her kid, she will decide who's frien

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Text - This to me disgusting. If she doesn't allow them to play together outside of school that's her choice but l'm not playing those games in my second fucking grade classroom. I took the emails and my concerns to our principal who agreed with me. My own mother told me "parents have that right your being a little bit of an ass" So lay it on me I guess am I the asshole here? 5 4 2 7 1 8.6k 567 1 Share

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Text - daslinda • 21h • Partassipant [1] NTA But be warned, that entitled mum is going to be a pain in your ass and not going to be the last... Good thing telling your principle right away. And for the future keep doing that, document everything to prevent hearsay. And at last: I wish you all the best as a teacher! Go on, teach the shit out of the children, become the best teacher you can be! With this to start, i know your gonna be an awesome one Reply 1 2.0k ...

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Text - Pighillian • 22h • Partassipant [2] NTA She's a terrible mother who will only ruin her daughter's social life. Like you said, what happens outside the classroom is out of your control but don't let that kind of prejudiced bully behaviour into your classroom. Reply 9.4k ...

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Text - wind-river7 • 21h • Pooperintendant [59] NTA. I would talk to the principal about having this woman doing volunteer work in your classroom. If she can't control herself around second graders, she may need to be reassigned to volunteer elsewhere. Reply 225

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Text - Novel-Imagination94 • 21h NTA. What a horrible way to raise a child. I don't know why your mom would say she has that right, that's not how schools work. Reply 337 ...

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Text - yoshivoicebottomtext • 22h NTA, she can't really expect you to enforce this in the classroom right? what a witch Reply 627 ...

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Text - After_Refrigerator91 • 21h • Partassipant [1] NTA. Terrible mother. Good on your principal for having your back. You sound like a great teacher and they're lucky to have you! Reply ...

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Text - Amazonwarrior14 • 21h NTA!!!!! As a teacher myself, I know the HUGE struggles of bullying and making sure everyone feels included. It's really not fair to tell any kid at that age that they can't play with another kid. Mom really doesn't have any control over the rules of your classroom. You're the professional with the degree. Would love to see her say all that in a meeting with an administrator and Kelly's parents if she tries to switch her daughter's class. You're doing the right thing

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Text - catttmommm • 21h NTA But as a more experienced teacher, I think you could have handled it differently. I might have said something like, "even if we aren't friends outside of school, we can still be kind to everybody in our classroom community." What you said undermines her mom's authority, and while I think her mom is wrong, she's still her mom, and you don't want to send the message to kids that they can disobey their parents' rules when they aren't around (which is how a kid can easily

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Text - dmcat12 • 21h • Partassipant [1] NTA. And I know you won't do it, but I would want to leak that email & attitude out to every other parent & let them know about Judgy McJudgerson up there on the PTA and see how far her little power trip lasts Reply 27 ...

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Text - WhySoManyOstriches • 17h NTA. At ALL. Thanks to you, Hannah will become a compassionate and understanding human. TBH, my sister's best friends growing up BOTH had horrible home lives in less prosperous neighborhoods. Hanging out at our house gave them peace safety and a chance to see another way of living. They both now have amazing families/homes/college degrees. Because of "hanging w/ Hannah". And they have been amazing foster sisters and daughters to0- so it wasn't a one way street. Ke

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Text - kostis12345 • 20h NTA, you are a good teacher and her mother is horrible. Also professionally speaking (I am a high school teacher) her mother's behavior is also out of line, she can't dictate to the school special rules of conduct for her daughter, moreso when they are based on classist prejudices. Reply 3 ...

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Text - PigDoctor • 18h NTA NTA NTA. THANK YOU for doing what teachers should be doing when they encounter a situation like this. Many of the people I know (including myself) have experienced bullying that teachers overlooked (or even overtly participated in). A teacher like you could have made all the difference. Really, a second grader isn't responsible for her parents choices, even if they were much worse than described here. And as you said, this mom can choose not to let them interact outsid

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Text - princesspurrito36• 19h nta. Not at all. But document, document, document. It cannot be said enough. About everything. You may find this parent will intervene on behalf of other students/ parents about any perceived slights or concern. Be very careful and deliberate with your words and cc your principal and/or counselor if appropriate. Ask for one of them to join you in all parent meetings/ calls with this parent. Better to be cautious and dot your i's and cross your t's. Reply ...

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