Daughter Excludes Mom From College Move In After Years of Being Ostracized by Her Stepdad

Moving into your college dorm is a momentous occasion that many 18-year-olds share with their parents, but sometimes family drama can get in the way of that special day.

 

That's what happened to u/throw-away7289, who opened up about her own dysfunctional family in a thread on Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit. After her Mom got remarried to Ryan, it became clear that Ryan's side of the family had no interest in including the Redditor in family activities. It started in a more subtle way. They would ask her to take certain family photos rather than be in them. They would organize outings around when she had to be home. When her Mom and Ryan had two children together, matters were made worse when Ryan gave his wife a locket with a picture of the Redditor's siblings, once again excluding her. Ryan said that the locket meant his wife "could always have her two children close to his heart." The Redditor's mom didn't even acknowledge her presence.

 

This was the breaking point for u/throw-away7289. After finishing high school early and starting community college, she began to distance herself more and more from her family. She slowly started moving her items out of her mother's house and stayed with her father before moving into her college dorm room. By the time she finished moving in, the Redditor's mother expressed her frustration that she wasn't invited to participate in the move-in process.

 

Our hot take here is that if the mom really had been paying attention to her daughter, she would have seen the signs and noticed that her daughter was being ostracized from her own family. While we don't think that this relationship is completely unsalvageable, it will take a ton of work on the mother's part to repair her relationship with her daughter. Telling her daughter that that she felt hurt without admitting any wrongdoing of her own is a poor start.

 

We've seen other instances of mother-daughter drama. Like this story, where a husband kicked his wife out of their house after she relentlessly bullied their pregnant daughter.

 

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