Monday, December 28, 2020

Man Brings New Fiancée To Christmas Despite Famous Cousin's Wishes


If anyone out there has a famous relative that they've grown up with, then they've likely encountered many scenarios where they've been forced to be especially mindful of their relative's privacy. Fame can be quite the costly thing in one's life when it comes to being able to celebrate the holidays without having your privacy invaded by mobs of hungry paparazzi, or family members just trying to leech off the money and toys that can come with the fame. In this case, it sounds like the guy's poor cousin was just trying to have a Christmas where he could carry on like he was living a normal life. Unfortunately, the cousin wasn't able to do so due to a surprise guest. 

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Text - AITA for bringing my fiancée to Christmas despite my famous cousin's wishes? Everyone Sucks My cousin is very famous. Yes, you have heard of him, and no, I won't tell you who he is. We'll call him Terry. When we have family functions (mainly for holidays), Terry likes for them to be only family so he can "be himself" and get drunk and pass out on the couch and share Hollywood gossip with us, otherwise he feels like he is being interviewed and having everyone talk to him or want a picture

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Text - I hated this at first because I would be dating some chick and she would want to get to meet him and it's awkward to tell them they can't come to family events and they get mad that they never get to meet him (my tinder has a pic of me with Terry). But I get it so I was fine with it. Until this year. I began dating this chick in August. I couldnt bring her to Thanksgiving, fine. But when I walk in, I see another cousin, "Danielle", has brought her boyfriend "Steve" EVEN THOUGH they've bee

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Text - Terry was fine with this because he's met Steve before (old family friend) even though Il've been told that no exceptions are allowed to his rule. Thanksgiving sucked because the whole time I was mad that I once again wasn't allowed to bring my gf. My gf consoled me after and realized that she is my soulmate. Two weeks ago, I proposed and we got engaged. Xmas was at my aunt's. Im a believer in "ask for forgiveness, not permission" so I brought my fiancée because she had nowhere else to go

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Text - Everyone was asking who she was and scolding me about the rules, and Terry flipped out. He was already buzzed (and looked 20 pounds heavier than he usually presents himself) and started yelling at me for doing this to him. He didn't seem excited at all about my engagement or willing to introduce himself to her. Our grandma was telling Terry to get over it and asking to see the ring and saying she wish she had gotten my fiancé a gift, so grandma was on my side. But Terry was still arguing

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Text - To top it all off, my uncle (who has never even liked Terry) got upset because apparently Terry was his Secret Santa so he didn't get a gift, so my uncle started blaming me for ruining Christmas. I get they are mad but it was clear there was an exception for fiancées and l'm embarrassed that my family was so rude to her when I just didn't want her to be alone on Christmas. Am I the asshole?

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Text - Puffincake_throwaway • 1d · Asshole Aficionado [16] YTA for this - " Im a believer in "ask for forgiveness, not permission" That's an obnoxious way to be. You could have spent Christmas just you and your GF, then she wouldn't have been lonely and you wouldn't have broken the established rule for family gatherings. There wasn't an exception for fiancés, there was an exception for Steve. What you do if you want your family to meet your fiancée is you set up your own engagement party. You do

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Text - Lola-the-showgirl · 1d · Asshole Enthusiast [6] YTA. The whole reason Terry has this rule is apparently because your ex fiance sold a story about him to TMZ. You already got him burned once and obviously still do not give a fuck. It honestly sounds like you got engaged just to try to bypass the rule, so good luck with that O Q Reply 1.1k ... +

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Text - GlibTurret · 1d · Asshole Aficionado [16] ΥΤΑ. It is never acceptable to bring someone to a party without informing the host in advance. If you wanted to spring your fiancee on everyone, then the socially- acceptable thing to do would have been to host your own engagement party. Not fuck with everyone's Christmas. On top of that, you use Terry's pic to lure "chicks" on Tinder and then ruin real Terry's Christmas by ambushing him with one of the "chicks" you lured? Gross. No wonder Terry w

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Text - prairiemountainzen • 1d · Certified Proctologist [25] 1 Award Oh, dude, I was so ready to say you're absolutely not the AH and Jerry needs to get over himself and go kick rocks. Until you shared a bit of very relevant information that you conveniently left out of your post. That being: you've been engaged twice before, and one of your previous fiancées sold a story to TMZ about Jerry "to make a quick buck," and this is the whole reason why he has made this rule about having family--and on

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Text - kaykay_20 · 1d ΥΤΑ 1. You knew it was a rule. Even if they made an exception for Steve (who at Thanksgiving was fiance, not BF, per your timeline) you gave a clear reason why...he was already an old family friend and had met Terry before. Your fiance does not meet that criteria but you brought her anyway. 2. Your fiance may not be a "fangirl" in your opinion, but she's asked for pics with Terry before. According to you, you know Terry doesn't want to deal with that at family functions.

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Text - 3. Your family didn't even know you were engaged and you put them on the spot. And considering this isn't your first engagement and you knew they would be skeptical/less than pleased, you had to have known it wouldn't go over well. 4. By your own admission you use a pic of you with Terry to get matches on Tinder. That's exactly the kind of stuff he doesn't want happening. You're using him solely for your own benefit and I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't want to have further contact wi

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Text - whyamisoawesome9 • 1d • Colo-rectal Surgeon [46] YTA. It sounds like this was the first meeting of a fiancè you have been with for very few months. Trying to compare to the other cousins relationship is pointless, you said it yourself, they have met Terry a few times. Basically you use his profile pic on Tinder, then wonder why he doesn't want fan girls trying to meet him at family functions... You would rather ask for forgiveness than permission, so decided not to discuss at all? At what

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Text - Rose717 · 1d YTA.. I stopped reading when I got to the part that you use a photo of you and your famous cousin as your profile pic to pick up chicks, knowing full well he doesn't want to taint his family time with his work persona. Also, if you're methodology is "ask for forgiveness instead of permission", it's like you already knew you were 100% wrong for doing what you were doing and trying to rug sweep everyone else's feelings because you wanted what you wanted and screw everyone else

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Text - luminouslarkspur · 1d · Partassipant [4] YTa - forgetting everything else bringing an uninvited guest to someone else's home when you know they are not welcome is incredibly rude and unacceptable. Second, surely you can tell the difference between you bringing a stranger and your cousin bringing someone already known to the family. Finally, you did not give Terry the option to not come once you made the decision. Instead you forced him into an uncomfortable situation. Asking for forgivene

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Text - VenusdeMiloTrap • 1d YTA Terry needs a safe place too. If it was so important to you to bring your fiance, you should have talked to him about it and made it clear how important it was to you. Maybe have introduced them before the holiday so he felt comfortable with her. You were acting like a child "how come he gets to and I can't!" You know YTA here, you need to apologize to your family and your girl for putting her in an awkward position. Also feel like you're maybe flexing here showin

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Text - LivelySally · 1d · Pooperintendant [60] YTA - I'm a believer of ask for forgivness instead of permission. That only means, do what I wont and don't give two shits about you. Forgive me and be a doormat or be pissed and I call you petty. Reply 1 303 3 + ...

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Text - I couldn't stop imagining terry crews as the cousin in this story. I'm just picturing this drunk behemoth flipping the table set with christmas dinner and throwing the christmas tree at the TV before storming out. YTA Dude you know for a fact you proposed solely to force her attendance, and given you have a history of doing this only adds to the narrative. Reply 1 179 ...

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Text - Calm_Investment • 1d · Asshole Enthusiast [7] 3 1 Award YTA - the two situations weren't the same. Your cousin knew the other person unlike your GF. Getting engaged that quickly is also shady af. If you don't like the rules don't go. Spend the Xmas with your new fiance. Your wrecked Christmas because of a tantrum and games. And your cousin knows not to trust your judgement because you sell your link to him - you don't add to his privacy, you resent you can't use it to your benefit. Give a

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Text - cookie_monster_911 • 1d YTA 1. You use your cousin's photo to get girls interested in you on Tinder (it's apparent with this current fiancée too since she's asked a couple of times to get a picture with him...) 2. Your cousin Danielle was an exception because Terry KNEW him. They weren't a complete stranger like your current fiancée (3rd time is not the charm) is 3. You seem like a dick. Who tf says "it's better to ask for forgiveness, not permission" ?? No just no 4. You went out of your

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Text - SmokieOki • 1d • Partassipant [1] YTA. Stop trying to use your famous cousin for some clout in the world. Take his pic off your tinder when you know he wants more anonymity. Your little jabs about him looking 20lbs heavier and being drunk are your pettiness & jealousy showing. Lots of us get drunk on holidays with family. Why do you care if he's gained 20lbs. He's still famous and you aren't. Doesn't change it. please re-examine your attitude of do it now and ask forgiveness later. That's

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Text - The_final_frontier_ • 1d • Partassipant [2] YTA. Steve was a family friend and clearly knows Terry from before so the same rules obviously don't apply. You threw a tantrum because what? Trying to get some clout for being related to a celebrity of some kind? You ruined Christmas for your cousin and the rest of the family because of your little drama. + Q Reply 4 230 ...

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Text - ApprehensivePaint657 · 1d ΥΤΑ YOUR previous fiance is the reason this rule exists, dude. The jab about Terry being heavier...specifying the Uber Black, using him in your Tinder to lure women...your fiance asking for pictures with him at all instead of being cool and waiting to get to know him as an inlaw, its all just shit. I was kind of "who does Terry think they are, dictating the family guest list" but it turns out its because of you! Jfc Reply 66 ...

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Text - NoeTellusom · 1d · Asshole Aficionado [11] YTA for using your famous family member in your Tinder profile to get laid. Also, you realize that even having met your "soulmate", you used "has" for that profile. So you still have it up, sounds like. Then you brought your fiance to an event without Terry's permission at (presumably) his mother's house (your aunt?). Reply 19 ...

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