Sunday, May 17, 2020

Woman's Family Criticizes Fiancé's Income


This woman asked the people of Reddit whether or not she was in the wrong for threatening to ban her family from the wedding. Sounds like the family was being all kinds of toxic, and they were trashing her fiancé's income. 

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Text - Text - AITA for telling my family to stay out of me and my fiancé's financial agreement and that if they keep bothering me they can't come to the wedding Not the A-hole So my fiancé and I have a large wealth discrepancy. My grandparents gave me and my sister a large amount of money when they died, and I have a much higher paying job than him. He works just as hard as me, he just gets paid less.

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Text - Text - The way our finances work right now is I pay most of our day to day expenses but he gets me nice birthday and Christmas presents. Last Christmas he got me a really beautiful necklace that he wouldn't have been able to afford if I made him pay rent on the apartment. So he contributes just as much as he normally would if he paid rent, but this makes me feel better. The rent doesn't suddenly cost more because he lives here, I was paying it by myself anyway. My parents pestered me and

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Text - Text - I called them over Mother's Day, and they spent the whole time asking if I have started making my fiancé pay rent. I finally got sick of it and told them no, to butt out and if they kept pestering me about our personal finances that they couldn't come to the wedding. They had another meltdown and said that I was horrible for even bringing up the possibility that I wouldn't invite them to the wedding. Was that threat too far? My mom called me crying today apologizing and basically g

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Text - Text - QueenyVicky • 22h • Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA why do they think it's okay for them to say things like you should break up with him but it's not okay for you to tell them they won't be invited to a wedding they clearly disapprove of? I wouldn't want someone who clearly isn't happy for me to be at my wedding either. If you're happy in that arrangement, they have absolutely NOTHING to say. horrible

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Text - Text - Slutty_Squirrel • 15h If you make so much more... have you thought about a percent system? If you make 80% of the income - you pay 80% of the bills.

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Text - Text - Remindme2000 • 20h Just the fact you believe a prenup means lack of trust concerns me. It actually protects you both. I somehow feel like your family may have mentioned them as well. I would sign a prenuptial agreement in a heartbeat. Anyone who would balk at one would make me very concerned.

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Text - Text - grumpierolddog • 16h |(f 50) was just divorced and I sure do wish I had a pre nup. I made more than him, in the end. We paid off his student loans, mine were done, I owned a house pre- marriage, he was renting. When divorcing, he got fifty percent of my cal strs teachers retirement and half of our 403 B's even though I put in 60 per cent. He was unemployed numerous times, and quit a job that would have given him the same type of retirement I had. I never saw what a drain he was. I

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Text - Text - Remindme2000 • 22h They are afraid you are being used for your money. Of course it isn't any of their business what you do with your money but I am sure you don't want to be blind to someone taking advantage of you either. Love CAN be blind. It maybe prudent to consider a prenup.

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Text - Text - ForgottenTroll • 22h • Partassipant [4] NTA. You spoke in anger, but your parents also did not butt out when you told them to.

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Text - Text - Rey16 • 22h • Asshole Enthusiast [8] NTA. Your financial arrangement isn't their business. Your fiancé contributes in other ways and that's what works for you. And to be honest, it sounds like part of you being much more well off than him is luck, you just happened to have grandparents that were well-off enough to leave you a large sum of money when they passed. That's something that could have easily been reversed.

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Text - Text - this_is_an_alaia• 20h • Asshole Aficionado [15] NAH your parents are concerned about you. From your comments you're not interested in signing anything that protects yourself so your family want to protect you. They're being pushy but it probably comes from a good place

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Text - Text - androidis4lyf • 15h • Partassipant [1] NAH. You're upset because, rightfully so, it is your business and it is your choice. However, I am imagining that your parents are coming from a place of love and fear for their daughter, which is a normal parental reaction. Your man is on a good wicket. He doesn't have to pay to live at that level of lifestyle. To be fair, I would consider a prenup, because love can be blind and partnerships can turn sour.

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Text - Text - ColorfulToes • 20h NTA It's NBD that you make more than him and cover most of the expenses, regardless of what your family thinks A prenup is a good idea, and it has nothing to do with trust. It's just planning, and it can be fair to both parties. More than half of marriages end in divorce, so you will be against the odds if you stay together. Debt is a big factor. In my state, debt is marital debt no matter who has it, so a spouse can rack up hundreds of thousands in secret debt,

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Text - Squish_the_android • 10h • Asshole Enthusiast [9] NAH. They're worried about you and I have a feeling that thier fears are legitimate. Don't be naive. Get a prenup.

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Text - Text - theshebeast2050 • 14h • Asshole Enthusiast [6] ESH Contributions arent always monetary. But you invited them into this by telling about about your finances. And his. I'm sure you're fiance doesn't feel good about this right now.

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Text - LayleyBean • 14h • Partassipant [1] NAH Family didn't realized realize/listen to your HARD BOUNDARY. You communicated in a way that made it clear it was a hard boundary. They apologized Problem solved. Well done.

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Text - Text - ErikaNaumann • 20h NAH They are worried your fiancé is using you for your money. In a previous comment you said you are 100% sure he isn't. Well this is a red flag itself. Never trust anyone 100%. Have you seen the divorce rates and how the usually end up for the person with more money? Yeah not good. No one gets married thinking about divorce and gold diggers, until shit hits the fan. I strongly suggest you read about prenups. I know you won't, and we are all just wasting time. Yo

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Text - Text - Horangi1987 • 20h NTA - And, I bet if we flipped the scenario and it was the man paying all the rent, no one would question it at all! I'm in the same scenario, I make 2x what my boyfriend does, and I pay our rent - we're a very happy couple, and I feel very secure knowing that heaven forbid something changed between us, I'm perfectly financially independent. It's Don't let your parents get to you - that is unnecessary stress and strife, and not the way you want to start your new l

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Text - andwhatofmywrath • 22h NTA!!! They did not respect your privacy and wishes until you brought up them possibly being unwelcome at your wedding.

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Text - Text - brazentory • 17h NTA. Financial arrangements are between the two of you. As long as you both are happy is all that matters. It's none of their business.

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Text - Text - 1999falcon • 16h NTA . I would be worried that if they come to the wedding they will be ungracious to your partner and his family but cross that bridge later. My wife earns more than me by multiples , we both work hard , she's smarter than me hence more money. We have been married 30 plus years , love each other and get along great . If it works for you your parents need to suck it up and let's face it if the genders were reversed it would not be such an issue.

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Text - Text - cirena • 16h NTA. If you give them this inch, they'll take the whole mile. If they want to come, they can behave like civilized adults and not the town gossip.

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Freeloading Housemates Get Introduced To Court System


Man, these people sound like a ball of toxic energy. You have the one dude offering nothing but generosity and understanding to the rest of the roommates, who are basically going around, freeloading, and taking advantage of one's good nature. A kind of icky feeling can arise just thinking about it. Well, the freeloading roommates ultimately learned their lesson, and were introduced to the court system. Maybe that will set them on a different path in the future. Who knows? 


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Text - r/ProRevenge + JOIN u/falloutfan1987 • 7h Take the money I give for bills and squander it? Hope you like the court system! The Background: I lived with a group of people who I thought were my friends. They were 2 couples, and we all lived in the same house for almost 2 years until I recently moved out. There was David and Tina and Brittnay and AJ. I was the only single person there.

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Text - There was debate on how we should pay the bills, but we all decided to give the money to the person whose name was on the bill. David paid the mortgage, Tina paid the water and electric/gas, and I paid the internet. It came to the point to where I was paying close to 80 percent of the mortgage by myself, the entire water bill, about 75 percent of the gas and electric, and I was paying the internet bill by myself. I was giving the money still to the person in charge of the bill, but came t

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Text - While they all saw me struggle to pay these off, they were mindlessly spending money during the day, which is when I sleep due to working 3rd shift, so I never saw the mindless things they spent money on, nor did I ever see the mail since they grabbed it before I woke up. Brittnay never paid anything as she was having her check garnished due to unpaid student loans, but she always had expensive make up, AJ never held a job for more than 2 weeks, David and Tina were always calling into wor

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Text - One day, I woke up while they were all out and about doing something or other, so I went to go check the mail as I was expecting a package, when I saw the bills in the mail, so I decided to investigate. I opened up the gas and electric bill (as they are by the same company) to see a total amount of almost 400 dollars and in risk of being shut off. I was shocked and pissed. I knew right then and there what was going on. And I vowed to screw them over as hard as I could. The Revenge:

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Text - I had just interviewed for a new job that paid almost double what I was making, and I knew that I interviewed well with them, so I told myself that if I got the job, I would give them a 30 day notice and move out, and as it was close to the end of the month and I had already paid them, I would be moving out before the 1st of February I got the call with the job offer the next day, which I happily accepted. I did the paperwork for the back ground check, and it all came back clean. The same

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Text - them aside for rent, deposit, and basic things that I would need. I was asked several times to help with the next month's bills, to which I said no, as I was saving for my own place and that they had plenty of time to come up with the money between the 4 of them, because I was doing it all by myself pretty much on a meager pay rate of 11 dollars an hour before my new job. There were a lot of scowls, passive aggressive behavior, and flat out attempts to take or use my things or foods witho

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Text - The day came when I finally went and got my U-Haul and had a few friends help me move (free beer and free lunch are the best payment ever, as they shared it all with me). I was determined to get it all in one go, so I got the biggest one they had, and we got everything packed up. I took everything that was mine down to my pizza stone (which they loved), my expensive kitchen knives which they would use and never clean, even my toilet paper that I had bought 3 days prior because I needed it

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Text - I happened to be good friends with my previous neighbors (we smoked each other out frequently), and asked them to keep an eye out for anything out of the ordinary. 4 days go by and I come to find out that the gas, electric, and water have all been turned off and they were asking to fill up some buckets to manually flush the toilets, bathe in, etc. etc. Now, both couples have dogs (which my cat hated as they were both hyperactive as hell, but I loved them), so I decided that those dogs wer

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Text - The NEXT day, my neighbor, Todd, texted me telling me that the dogs were removed from the home, that my previous housemates were being charged with neglect, and because of the lack of utilities, that these were not civil, but criminal charges. This was enough for me to smile, but I wanted more. I knew that David was divorced and had a child. I also knew that he wasn't paying child support. I then contacted the local courts and made them aware of the flagrant non-support, and that maybe th

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Gems From Avatar: The Last Airbender


With Avatar: The Last Airbender making its debut on Netflix, now would seem to be the perfect time to celebrate some of the show's shining moments. It's a show filled with wisdom, humor, and just thoroughly enjoyable. 

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Animated cartoon - I'LL SHOW YOU LIGHTNING! KA-CHOW!

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Cartoon - He is clearly a master of How am Igoing to find him, Uncle? evasive maneuvering. You have no idea where youtre going do you?

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Fictional character - Trust me Zuko It's not going to be much of a match Here for a rematch? frognoodle: leosboots: littlekoalaotter: "Here for a rematch?" HE ASKED THE WATERBENDER WHILE STANDING ON A GLACIER ISLAND SURROUNDED BY WATER

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Cartoon - THE FLOWER THAT BLOOMS IN ADVERSITY IS THE MOST RARE AND BEAUTIFUL OF ALL made on tngur

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Text - "IT IS IMPORTANT TO DRAW WISDOM FROM DIFFERENT PLACES. IF YOU TAKE IT FROM ONLY ONE PLACE IT BECOMES RIGID AND STALE IROH

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Cartoon - liyou look for the light, you can often find it But if you look for the dark that is all you will ever sée.

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Text - the-fandoms-are-cool: hackedy girlymaang all-hail-the-lady-morgana: am i the only one who is pretty sure this is a water bending move? I'm a firm believer that the best benders are those who look beyond their own element's bending techniques and discover new ways of bending. Look at Toph, she bends completely differently from other earthbenders, and she's one of the most powerful benders in the world. Look at Iroh, he devised lightning redirection from waterbending. This just shows that Z

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Cartoon - GOOD TIMES BECOME GOOD MEMORIES BUT BAD TIMES BECOME GOOD LESSONS made on ingue

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Adventure game - I need an earthbending teacher. Maybe send me an angel. The nicest angel you have. AVATAR SHITBENDING [evil laughter]

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Text - NICK misssavannie: rain-mirror: The moment you realize that this isn't Zuko's dad but it's Iroh holding Zuko while he's with his son. I have never been more happy and sad at the same time.

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Text - fedoraharp: carnivalofwonder: voiceofdesert-bluffs: warpfactornope: bulletproofteacup: This scene still breaks my heart each and every single time I watch it. Azula was a terrible, horrible person. She would have set the world aflame and laughed over the broken carcass of her brother. But she was fourteen. She was so ruined and twisted by her childhood and by her nation, driven to insanity by the expectations placed upon her. Azula was bad and yet I can't help but feel so terribly sorry f

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Bird - YOU THINK YOU'RE THE FIRST PERSON TO BELIEVE THEIR WAR WAS JUSTIFIED? needlesslydefiantwithtea: "Countless others have come before you, seeking weapons or weaknesses or battle strategies!" this is one of the truly brilliant things about this show. while most kids' shows will have good vs evil conflict, atla has a war. a real war, between people, with all the moral greyness and points of view made clear. the fire nation isn't evil: it's a repressed country under the strict control of its r

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A Plate of Puns to Fall Face First Into


Puns are a lot like a party guest with a guitar: usually not welcome, but excellent when deployed appropriately. We can't really tell if we love or hate puns, but there's certainly a time and place for them. If you're in need of more wordplay, here's a smattering of puns to fill the pun void.

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Face - Hey man, do you want to hear a really good Batman impression Sure STOP! NOT THE KRYPTONITE! That's Superman... Thanks man, I've been practising it a lot. Pun hub

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Job - Your welcome mat. Thank you. PELLO MATT WELCOME You're welcome, Matt. odueto PELLO MATT WELCOM

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Job - People who sell meat are gross. PunHuboine But people who sell fruit and vegetables are grocer. Pun hub

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Blackboard - There are for guarontees blue 6fe but a i's azure thing!

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Electronics - ding bat @_w0xy 1d Don't forget to tip your server O 227 274,844 16.2K Show this thread

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Headphones - WHAT MY FRIENDS THINK WHENI TELL THEM IM INTO CURRENT ELECTRONIC HOUSE MUSIC w/im fectshane

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Yellow - Unsharpened pencils are pointless

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Medical assistant - I'm going to deliver the baby Actually, we'd like him to keep his liver BadtasteBB

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Product - Let that sink in...

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Natural foods - Apple Dis a apple Pear

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Shopkeeper - You wanna box for those, Sir? Soy Jerky ky Nah, I hate violence. Is it cool if I just pay with my card?

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Text - Taming Fred Savage @FredTaming [ first day as a superhero ] villain: why is my calendar wrapped in aluminum? me: i foiled your plans [i am immediately killed ] 1:33 · 24 Jan 20 Twitter for iPhone

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Text - Why do dogs float in water? Because they're good buoys.

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Text - Teacher: what is so funny? Me: nothing... My brain: Joseph instalin' vreamstime dreamstime dreamstime dream time

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Text - guiltmenot: A guy walks into a bar and sees 3 pieces of meat hanging from the ceiling. The guy asks, "What's this about?" The bartender replies, "Well, if you can jump up and slap the meat, you get free drinks for the rest of the night. If you miss, you pay for everyone's drinks for the next hour. You wanna do it?" The guy replies, "Nah, the steaks are too high." hah ha

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Road - HAN SAYS SOLO DOWN LEIA OFF THE GAS HWY Y Hwy Y

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Product - Is this the right number for the phone repair? Sure is. What can I do for you? as you see there is a massive crack Grow the fuck up

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Nose - Birds: *exists* Mockingbirds:

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Walking - Always practice good high jean

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Cuisine - 857 606 Comments 1,7K Shares Like לן Comment Share There's not mushroom for anything else

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Text - Laura Today 2:20 AM Hello Laura! You look pretty fly! Today 3:06 AM Hey! Sorry if that opening pun was a little plane Np I was just winging it. So where are you from Haha I see none of those jokes really took off

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Product - How do you think we keep the cars here so shiny? Polish? @PunHubOnline Sorry sir, Jak myślisz, jak trzymamysamochody tutaj tak błyszczące? Pun hub

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Presentation - Me: Is it a crime to throw sodium chloride in your enemy's eyes? Judge: yes that's assault Me: I know it's a salt but is it a crime?

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Blackboard - People say I'm plagiarist. Their words, not mine. 4/27/20120

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Cartoon - Daddy, why is that book so thick? It's a long story

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